RickTheToad
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Never saw the movie. Was never a Ben Stiller fan.. I cannot stand his father (RIP) even more.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
POF - perpetually “unread” messages
- Thread starter TheCheez18
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT
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Personally I wouldn't take advice from a poster on OLD without them posting receipts, much of the advice on this site is sus.
Is this after they've responded to your first message, or do you mean women who haven't responded at all to anything
If you can see who reads your messages, then that means you have a paid membership. Which means you can send an unlimited amount of messages per day vs the 25 max for free users. Which means... don't even worry about who's not answering, just send more messages
If you can see who reads your messages, then that means you have a paid membership. Which means you can send an unlimited amount of messages per day vs the 25 max for free users. Which means... don't even worry about who's not answering, just send more messages
corrector
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How many women who deleted your messages saw your profile? How many women are seeing your profile? Did they see your profile first after reading your message and did that? How do more popular male profiles look compared to yours?
Step back and keep a critical distance. Look at it like science. You need to figure it out by being objective.
bat soup
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That's true. I specifically avoid "getting to know" any woman from a dating site that is not having sex with me.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
POF's glory days were 2008-2013
After 2013 POF went off a cliff (that's when Tinder was at it's height, in my city anyway)
I haven't used POF since 2017 tried to get on it during the Pandemic and got banned within minutes
Honestly Tinder has now turned into POF so many single mothers it's crazy
bat soup
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Plenty of Rotten Fish. Tinder is even worse - at least with the other sites you could filter out the fatties. It's a shame there's no way to filter out all of the attention whoares.