"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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POF Opening Messages - What has worked for You?

FMCSMT

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So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HankHill

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I can tell you what hasn't worked on okCupid where I signed on a couple of days ago... cutting and pasting "Hey there, you sound interesting. We should meet." To about 8 or 9 women.
 

The Duke

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Do you "heart" butt sex? o_O that always gets them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt

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what openers worked for you?

Something that shows you read her profile or noticed details in her pics, is light-hearted or humorous, and is non-sexual in nature. Joke around with her a little, then tell her you are not on pof very much and it would be better if you had her number. Then move to texting.
 

guru1000

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My most efficient opener is "Hey."

Ensures all who respond are highly interested.

My second message is a date offer.

Any response other than an unequivocal yes, it ends there.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
Pof is full of hogs lol

Spam lyrics. Ie Jeffy Allan ETP 2.0. Run volume through funnel.

Pull.

Repeat.
 

evan12

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It is all about look , put your best photos and based how on good , social , sexy you look in the photos the responses will be for you .
 

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Hello, are you ready for the New Year? Got me 2 dates in one week in January. Yeah, can't use it for 5 more months.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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soulforge

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Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?


I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites

Then you have some chicks you have to open up, with some sex talk, and they willingly participate, which more often leads to a certain LAY for me.

Which would you suggest is the safer option?

Keep it clean? I have lost out on banging a couple of chicks, due to the convo going down the sexual route lol
 

Bible_Belt

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Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?

I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites
I think clean is the way to go. The typical message a woman gets on a dating site is something like:

wow ur t!ts r huge! U dtf?


She might get 99 of those a day, so it sets you apart to not be that guy.
 

Glassguy

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I think a slow play showing MILD interest and not getting sexual right off the bat is the way to go with OLD, FB messengers etc. Show some interest without being thirsty. Be mysterious and dont show your hand too soon.

Let their responses and actions dictate how you lead the conversation.
 
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