"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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POF Opening Messages - What has worked for You?

FMCSMT

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So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HankHill

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I can tell you what hasn't worked on okCupid where I signed on a couple of days ago... cutting and pasting "Hey there, you sound interesting. We should meet." To about 8 or 9 women.
 

The Duke

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Do you "heart" butt sex? o_O that always gets them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bible_Belt

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what openers worked for you?

Something that shows you read her profile or noticed details in her pics, is light-hearted or humorous, and is non-sexual in nature. Joke around with her a little, then tell her you are not on pof very much and it would be better if you had her number. Then move to texting.
 

guru1000

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My most efficient opener is "Hey."

Ensures all who respond are highly interested.

My second message is a date offer.

Any response other than an unequivocal yes, it ends there.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
Pof is full of hogs lol

Spam lyrics. Ie Jeffy Allan ETP 2.0. Run volume through funnel.

Pull.

Repeat.
 

evan12

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It is all about look , put your best photos and based how on good , social , sexy you look in the photos the responses will be for you .
 

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Hello, are you ready for the New Year? Got me 2 dates in one week in January. Yeah, can't use it for 5 more months.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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soulforge

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Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?


I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites

Then you have some chicks you have to open up, with some sex talk, and they willingly participate, which more often leads to a certain LAY for me.

Which would you suggest is the safer option?

Keep it clean? I have lost out on banging a couple of chicks, due to the convo going down the sexual route lol
 

Bible_Belt

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Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?

I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites
I think clean is the way to go. The typical message a woman gets on a dating site is something like:

wow ur t!ts r huge! U dtf?


She might get 99 of those a day, so it sets you apart to not be that guy.
 

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I think a slow play showing MILD interest and not getting sexual right off the bat is the way to go with OLD, FB messengers etc. Show some interest without being thirsty. Be mysterious and dont show your hand too soon.

Let their responses and actions dictate how you lead the conversation.
 
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