"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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POF Opening Messages - What has worked for You?

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FMCSMT

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So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can tell you what hasn't worked on okCupid where I signed on a couple of days ago... cutting and pasting "Hey there, you sound interesting. We should meet." To about 8 or 9 women.
 
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Do you "heart" butt sex? o_O that always gets them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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what openers worked for you?

Something that shows you read her profile or noticed details in her pics, is light-hearted or humorous, and is non-sexual in nature. Joke around with her a little, then tell her you are not on pof very much and it would be better if you had her number. Then move to texting.
 
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My most efficient opener is "Hey."

Ensures all who respond are highly interested.

My second message is a date offer.

Any response other than an unequivocal yes, it ends there.
 
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FMCSMT said:
So I've been building a house and recently moved in. (Still moving in really).

It's been a while since I have dated. I banged a few ex's for a while and that has fizzled out a few months ago and I thought I would try POF again. I am also going out to local pubs to meet people in the new area I live in but I have enjoyed the POF game in the past and was wondering what openers worked for you?
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Pof is full of hogs lol

Spam lyrics. Ie Jeffy Allan ETP 2.0. Run volume through funnel.

Pull.

Repeat.
 
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It is all about look , put your best photos and based how on good , social , sexy you look in the photos the responses will be for you .
 
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Hello, are you ready for the New Year? Got me 2 dates in one week in January. Yeah, can't use it for 5 more months.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?


I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites

Then you have some chicks you have to open up, with some sex talk, and they willingly participate, which more often leads to a certain LAY for me.

Which would you suggest is the safer option?

Keep it clean? I have lost out on banging a couple of chicks, due to the convo going down the sexual route lol
 
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soulforge said:
Do you guys keep your convos clean? Or get some sexual talk going?

I find, some chicks as soon as you mention anything sexual, they lose interest and move the fuk along, as they are sick and tired of all the sex talk they are already facing on these sites
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I think clean is the way to go. The typical message a woman gets on a dating site is something like:

wow ur t!ts r huge! U dtf?

She might get 99 of those a day, so it sets you apart to not be that guy.
 
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I think a slow play showing MILD interest and not getting sexual right off the bat is the way to go with OLD, FB messengers etc. Show some interest without being thirsty. Be mysterious and dont show your hand too soon.

Let their responses and actions dictate how you lead the conversation.
 
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