"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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POF has converted to an almost full must pay site now

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Just went back on POF to check out things and messaged someone...went to message another woman and got a notification that free accounts were only allowed one free "first contact" a day and that I would need to upgrade and pay $20/month to get 50 per day.

Hell no...POF has been going downhill for years and that pretty much sealed it for me. Will stick to Bumble and Hinge in the future.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It seemed like they also stopped putting the screen names in the alerts, instead of seeing "StinkyFUPA likes you" you now see "Someone likes you," making it more difficult to match with someone who's already liked you.
 

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I quit using that site after my account would just get deleted without explanation.
 

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Was into the site in the 00s and lost interest around 2010 or so when I moved from secular to Christian dating website (although, apart from 2012, that has not worked for me either).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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POF was huge in the late 2000s/early 2010s. After that, it went downhill as Tinder was rising.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I swear they send you fake bot generated likes just to try and get you to spend money to see the matches.
I hate sites like that...there are some that will send you tons of messages from hot women who are fake that you have to pay to read also.
 

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Plenty of Fatties
Yes, that's what it is now. Quality dropped off that site a long time ago.

Tinder and Hinge have even dropped off in quality and are bad sausage fests. In my area, Bumble is likely the best of the options but still plagued by the problem of excess males.
 

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Just went back on POF to check out things and messaged someone...went to message another woman and got a notification that free accounts were only allowed one free "first contact" a day and that I would need to upgrade and pay $20/month to get 50 per day.

Hell no...POF has been going downhill for years and that pretty much sealed it for me. Will stick to Bumble and Hinge in the future.
I got kicked off hinge for reasons I’m still not sure why. Bumble sucks. You match with a woman, she messages you, you message back and she deletes her profile. Only to make a new one a week later, then she matches with you again and does the same thing all over lol
 

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I got kicked off hinge for reasons I’m still not sure why. Bumble sucks. You match with a woman, she messages you, you message back and she deletes her profile. Only to make a new one a week later, then she matches with you again and does the same thing all over lol
Not for me...I have many dates, many meetups and many lays from Bumble
 

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I got kicked off hinge for reasons I’m still not sure why. Bumble sucks. You match with a woman, she messages you, you message back and she deletes her profile. Only to make a new one a week later, then she matches with you again and does the same thing all over lol
Probably more botting.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I swear they send you fake bot generated likes just to try and get you to spend money to see the matches.
I got scammed into OKC premium that way. Saw I had 20 likes and all of them were from Kenya and Turkey lmao
 

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I swear they send you fake bot generated likes just to try and get you to spend money to see the matches.
Wouldn't you know it but Zoosk is the OLD app my dumbass paid for, a total bust for me.
They made it almost like a swipe app like Tinder with tons of fugly & mediocre women acting like beauty queens. The few decent looking females I connected with where total turdballs & flakes playing games.

Thinking about squashing my profile there when I still have till July on my subscription.

Should I? Waste of time/energy?
 

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Just went back on POF to check out things and messaged someone...went to message another woman and got a notification that free accounts were only allowed one free "first contact" a day and that I would need to upgrade and pay $20/month to get 50 per day.

Hell no...POF has been going downhill for years and that pretty much sealed it for me. Will stick to Bumble and Hinge in the future.
No offense but I have access to consumer report magazine and bumble did not make the cut when it comes to dating sites.
 

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No offense but I have access to consumer report magazine and bumble did not make the cut when it comes to dating sites.
Who cares? I'm interested in how it works for me where I am at not how it has worked for an average of tens of thousands of people in all different locations.
 

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Who cares? I'm interested in how it works for me where I am at not how it has worked for an average of tens of thousands of people in all different locations.
Still don't go dumping your money when there's better sites
around
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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