Plinco's cold approach journal

[Clockwerk50]

A couple of things:

1. The basics of attraction are simple: people who have extra free time, feel like you have something they don’t, or are going through a rough patch, like losing a parent or dealing with hardship, tend to be easier to attract. That’s almost the opposite of a typical young college girl. Most are financially supported by their family, swamped with schoolwork (and maybe a job), and excited about the independence of college life and the new adventures in the future. There’s not much an older man can offer when most of her needs are already fulfilled. On the other hand, if a woman is at a technical college, has a rough relationship with her parents, or is struggling financially, that is another story.
   
   
2. About social circles in a club: the bouncer, DJ, and bartender already have social status. Being friends with them mostly helps the staff, not you. The person you want to know is the club promoter. Book a table with him, grab some drinks with your friends, and invite girls there for a drink. Younger women today are often drawn to the hype and the experience - your jewelry, your clothes, the lights, the music, the energy, like if you were a rapper or a member of a rock band or the experience if they would be at a concert, a festival, or following an influencer.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

A couple of things:

1. The basics of attraction are simple: people who have extra free time, feel like you have something they don’t, or are going through a rough patch, like losing a parent or dealing with hardship, tend to be easier to attract. That’s almost the opposite of a typical young college girl. Most are financially supported by their family, swamped with schoolwork (and maybe a job), and excited about the independence of college life and the new adventures in the future. There’s not much an older man can offer when most of her needs are already fulfilled. On the other hand, if a woman is at a technical college, has a rough relationship with her parents, or is struggling financially, that is another story.
   
   
2. About social circles in a club: the bouncer, DJ, and bartender already have social status. Being friends with them mostly helps the staff, not you. The person you want to know is the club promoter. Book a table with him, grab some drinks with your friends, and invite girls there for a drink. Younger women today are often drawn to the hype and the experience - your jewelry, your clothes, the lights, the music, the energy, like if you were a rapper or a member of a rock band or the experience if they would be at a concert, a festival, or following an influencer.

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Exactly...the club promoter or the DJ. Nobody gives a F about knowing a bouncer or bartender.

But most DJs don't really want to deal with people trying to come up and hang out with them while they are working so club promoter is easier...

And if you actually want to have a good chance of making something happen, get to the point where you get invited to the after hour parties.

That's where the real fvcking and debauchery goes on, not at the club itself. That's just foreplay for later.

I've seen some of the wildest sh!t of my life at those after hour parties.

Amateurs work the clubs. Pros work the after parties, and trust me it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend there with her...if I had a dollar for every time I saw a girl who was at one of those parties with her boyfriend come downstairs after getting fvcked by another guy in a different part of the house, I would have well over $100.

Sometimes I was DJing at them, but other times I was just there hanging out and let's just say I really hope that nobody ever has an emergency surgery that needs to be done late at night on a weekend...

 

[Plinco]

Exactly...the club promoter or the DJ. Nobody gives a F about knowing a bouncer or bartender.

But most DJs don't really want to deal with people trying to come up and hang out with them while they are working so club promoter is easier...

And if you actually want to have a good chance of making something happen, get to the point where you get invited to the after hour parties.

That's where the real fvcking and debauchery goes on, not at the club itself. That's just foreplay for later.

I've seen some of the wildest sh!t of my life at those after hour parties.

Amateurs work the clubs. Pros work the after parties, and trust me it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend there with her...if I had a dollar for every time I saw a girl who was at one of those parties with her boyfriend come downstairs after getting fvcked by another guy in a different part of the house, I would have well over $100.

Sometimes I was DJing at them, but other times I was just there hanging out and let's just say I really hope that nobody ever has an emergency surgery that needs to be done late at night on a weekend...

I think your experience is fantastic, and like I said, I don't think you're stupid. I just wish you could put your thoughts together coherently.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I think your experience is fantastic, and like I said, I don't think you're stupid. I just wish you could put your thoughts together coherently.

Seems pretty simple to follow

 

[Plinco]

Seems pretty simple to follow

No not really. This is what you sound like

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No not really. This is what you sound like

And this is what I hear from you...

 

[Plinco]

I want to introduce some of my motivational stuff for the lurkers

 

[Plinco]

Check out my quotes

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[Plinco]

Just came home from a college bar/dance club. Had a blast. Took @DonJefe19 advice and worked on improving my social proof. I talked to a few people and made a couple of acquaintances. I hit the dance floor for almost half of the time I was there. The vibes were really good in this place. I made four cold approaches.

1 she was polite with me but told me she had a boyfriend
2 conversation started off nice but fizzled out after about three minutes
3 cold shoulder
4 was entertaining. I decided to make one last approach before I left. This girl was actually over 21. I walked up to her and told her that I thought she looked pretty and I wanted to come say "hi." She responds with saying "hi" sarcastically, and then her friend shook her head and said "no no no!" I smirked and said "okay, well you two have a nice night then," and I could see her friend get visibly p!ssed as I walked off.

 

[DonJefe19]

Just came home from a college bar/dance club. Had a blast. Took @DonJefe19 advice and worked on improving my social proof. I talked to a few people and made a couple of acquaintances. I hit the dance floor for almost half of the time I was there. The vibes were really good in this place. I made four cold approaches.

1 she was polite with me but told me she had a boyfriend
2 conversation started off nice but fizzled out after about three minutes
3 cold shoulder
4 was entertaining. I decided to make one last approach before I left. This girl was actually over 21. I walked up to her and told her that I thought she looked pretty and I wanted to come say "hi." She responds with saying "hi" sarcastically, and then her friend shook her head and said "no no no!" I smirked and said "okay, well you two have a nice night then," and I could see her friend get visibly p!ssed as I walked off.

Eh - it's a step in the right direction The previous interactions in venue do help with establishing, "Oh this guys is talking to people, he must be a regular, not creepy" but not exactly what I was suggesting. Maybe instead of hitting up the club, why not find a salsa/bachata class in the area and getting to know the crowd there? Then you can invite people on your outings. Or finding a volleyball coed league and inviting folks out with ya there.

Even finding club promoters in the area and making friends with them?

 

[Plinco]

This morning I decided to log on to Tinder and Bumble. I ran out of people in the 18-35 range in a 50 mile radius (with 'likes' left over).

Yesterday I had a 30ish year old woman hitting on me at the grocery store. It was fun talking to her a bit. She wasn't bad looking but looked a bit jaded; like she lacked energy.

Currently I'm only at 7 approaches for this month so far, and it should be a lot higher. I'm going to make an effort to go to places to approach in the afternoons and evenings for more days in the rest of this month.

 

[Plinco]

Just got a number. My volume is low and I'm not the best looking guy either so I don't get many of those. I'm going to text her tomorrow and see what happens.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Currently I'm only at 7 approaches for this month so far, and it should be a lot higher. .

7 this month?

Still more than most these blokes will have all year.

 

[Plinco]

7 this month?

Still more than most these blokes will have all year.

My success rate is pretty low, so I think I'll need no less than one per day on average. Last year I made 96 approaches, got two phone numbers and went on one date.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

My success rate is pretty low, so I think I'll need no less than one per day on average. Last year I made 96 approaches, got two phone numbers and went on one date.

We need to talk.

 

[Plinco]

When I'm out, I've applied the whole social proof thing, but sometimes I don't feel like I must socialize, like I know that I don't have to prove anything. In other words, I feel confident in my own skin that I don't have to pretend to be liked. I like talking to people, but it's optional, and sometimes I like to take a step back and observe what other people do. Of course I like dancing too.

We need to talk.

Anytime

 

[Plinco]

Usually I make notes in my profile posts, but I'm going to make some notes here.

The strategy for dating is the following:

1. Know yourself, including knowing what you stand for, which is part of integrating with reality
2. Take full control of every aspect of yourself to the best of your ability
3. Work on being the best version of yourself
4. After you make a habit of being the best version of yourself, it is a numbers game, so it's all about volume.


The problem with men is that they are conditioned to be self-destructive, particularity in a way that they lack discipline.