Plinco's cold approach journal

[CoolWave1331]

Kudos on your commitment Plinco- cold approaching is definitely not an easy thing to do.

Only advice I can give is to improve in the area(s) that you feel you need to & try not to take the rejections to heart. Many times you'll say and do the right things and are still met with "no". It's all about finding the people that are interested in what you're selling- when you do find them, it's easy.

 

[Plinco]

Kudos on your commitment Plinco- cold approaching is definitely not an easy thing to do.

Only advice I can give is to improve in the area(s) that you feel you need to & try not to take the rejections to heart. Many times you'll say and do the right things and are still met with "no". It's all about finding the people that are interested in what you're selling- when you do find them, it's easy.

Thanks for the encouragement! Sometimes I get a lot of the opposite.

 

[Plinco]

I saw a 9/10 walk into a store adjacent to the one I was walking in. If I had the right amount of confidence I would have approached her.

There was another woman in the store which was walking towards me. I asked her if I was in her way, but she politely/dismissively said I was not.

There was also another woman who I initially wanted to approach, but when she turned around, I could see the wrinkles in her face, and with the mature facial expression, which instantly turned me off. I'm guessing she was 28-30

 

[Plinco]

@We_ArE_VeNOM

I'm going to practice the mode one approach for night game, but I have a good reason not to do it for day game.

 

[rawkream]

Hey @Plinco, your journal is one of the reasons I decided to join this site. Huge respect for you and what you've been doing.

 

[Plinco]

Hey @Plinco, your journal is one of the reasons I decided to join this site. Huge respect for you and what you've been doing.

As long as you are willing to do the work, I'll be happy to help.

Also, I appreciate the positive affirmation.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

@We_ArE_VeNOM

I'm going to practice the mode one approach for night game

That a boy!!

 

[Plinco]

I did two cold approaches today

1.) Two girls shopping looking at cake mixes on clearance. They look like sisters. I commented that excess sugar is unhealthy and they nodded their heads and said "yes." I added a few more lines to try to get a conversation going but the challenging aspect of this approach was that both girls were re-affirmed by the other and there wasn't enough sustainability for someone with my conversation skill level to make inroads to. It could have been done, but this was not a beginner level approach.

2.) Girl in the bookstore with her friend. I was about 20 feet away reading a book, and decided to wait patiently for her friend to get up for some reason, or for the girl I wanted to talk to get up. Sure enough they both get up for some reason, and then the target girl comes back without her friend. I walked up to her and made a comment about her shirt. The conversation went on for about a minute, and honestly, I just ran out of things to say. She was polite and receptive to me, but running out of conversation runway led to a creeping in of awkwardness. I ended the conversation politely and said "nice talking with you" and she said "yes, you too ".

 

[SW15]

2.) Girl in the bookstore with her friend. I was about 20 feet away reading a book, and decided to wait patiently for her friend to get up for some reason, or for the girl I wanted to talk to get up. Sure enough they both get up for some reason, and then the target girl comes back without her friend. I walked up to her and made a comment about her shirt. The conversation went on for about a minute, and honestly, I just ran out of things to say. She was polite and receptive to me, but running out of conversation runway led to a creeping in of awkwardness. I ended the conversation politely and said "nice talking with you" and she said "yes, you too ".

It's likely that the woman you approached was a decent human being who wasn't currently in the market for new penis.

You could have saved time and immediately asked if she was single and available. You could have turned a 1 minute conversation into a 5 second conversation. A lot of 30-60 second conversations fizzle out because the woman isn't in the market.

I can see why you tried for an extended conversation before an ask out to see if there was enough commonality to warrant a 1-3 hour first date.

 

[Plinco]

It's likely that the woman you approached was a decent human being who wasn't currently in the market for new penis.

Possibly. She seemed pretty open to me at first.

You could have saved time and immediately asked if she was single and available. You could have turned a 1 minute conversation into a 5 second conversation. A lot of 30-60 second conversations fizzle out because the woman isn't in the market.

I can see why you tried for an extended conversation before an ask out to see if there was enough commonality to warrant a 1-3 hour first date.

 

[Plinco]

That a boy!!

I looked up the definition to 'mode one.' The meaning of 'mode one' is something a bit different than I originally thought. I've been doing mode one the whole time, except I don't overly sexualize the conversation, and for good reason.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I looked up the definition to 'mode one.' The meaning of 'mode one' is something a bit different than I originally thought. I've been doing mode one the whole time, except I don't overly sexualize the conversation, and for good reason.

Do you still take women out on dates, despite unfavorable Mode One results (meaning she declined your sexual advances)?

 

[Plinco]

Do you still take women out on dates, despite unfavorable Mode One results (meaning she declined your sexual advances)?

The essence of mode one is integrity, which is my approach. I have conversations because that's what I want to do.

It's not that I'm not using mode one, it's that I'm not effective with my target women because I am not confident that I can fight off the reactions from other men that may be in the area (i.e. bars, grocery stores, etc). I have what's called the toolbox fallacy, that I have to have all of my ducks in a row so to speak, in order to be confident enough that I won't be stepping into a bear trap.