Plinco's cold approach journal

[Plinco]

Stats for the month of July:

4 cold approaches
3 warm approaches (one girl texted me, but I don't think the interest is there)
Two matches on Tinder, not worth writing about.

Weigh 160. I did not calculate body fat percentage.
1 social event

17 videos posted to social media

3 martial arts classes attended to
9 times that I practiced martial arts at home

4 leg workouts
5 upper body workouts

$7115.71 income for the month

Correction: I made $5447.31

Usually I don't mess up numbers but I caught this today when I was looking at my numbers on my spreadsheets.

 

[Plinco]

I went out this time until closing at 2AM. I made one cold approach and four warm approaches. The important development this time, like last time, is that I'm more comfortable in that environment. I can make acquaintances pretty easily. I need to do a lot more cold approaches

There was something like a 2.5 men to 1 woman ratio. A lot of the women were already with some dude. There were relatively few women that were approachable. With that said, I saw a few instances that it looked like a woman was going home with a man she met that night

 

[Plinco]

 

[Plinco]

I went to the mall for about 45 minutes today. I did one cold approach, two girls walking around the mall almost like it was exercise for them. There was a blonde and brunette, I wanted to stop them so I could talk to them and then talk to the brunette. I asked them if they were getting enough exercise. They smiled and said "yes" and kept going. I was politely blown off. In hindsight, it would not have hurt to be more direct with the girl I wanted to talk to. "Hey, you with the brunette hair, what's your name?"

 

[Plinco]

I went to the beach for about an hour today and guess what I saw @SW15 @CornbreadFed

A guy who looked in his mid 40's with a solid 7/10 early 20's girlfriend. The girl was young and hot, but had a stupid amount of tattoos on her. The guy was visibly older, but looked like he was in great shape and from his body language, looked like he had his stuff together. I don't think he was particularly rich, and was of average height.

At first glance, a 45 year old 6.5/10 man with his 7.5/10 22 year old girlfriend.

 

[Plinco]

Stats for the month of August:

10 cold approaches
9 warm approaches (one girl texted me, but I don't think the interest is there)

5 times I went out at night

Weigh 160. I did not calculate body fat percentage.

21 videos posted to social media

1 martial arts classes attended to
8 times that I practiced martial arts at home

9 weightlifting workouts

$5062.03 income for the month

 

[Plinco]

Stats for the month of September:

11 cold approaches
2 warm approaches
Had two girls approach me at a bar

3 times I went out at night

Weigh 160. I did not calculate body fat percentage.

15 videos posted to social media

1 martial arts class attended to
1 time that I practiced martial arts at home

7 weightlifting workouts

$4,795.81 income for the month

 

[Plinco]

I made a trip to Orlando yesterday evening looking for places I could go cold approach.

The first place I wanted to go and see was my old university campus. I decided that place was going to be off limits, but I still wanted to see it after being away for so long. I walked around for a few hours, and it put me in a really good mood, I felt so much good, positive energy. Then I went to a list of places that I wanted to see and do any cold approaches if I saw any women I liked. I also asked a bar tender and another person who worked at a club in the area about where to go to find the kind of place I'm looking for (dancing, good energy, pretty young ladies). Both of them told me I should go downtown on Thursday nights, and a nearby place on Friday nights (but the nearby place nearby was still good on a Thursday night). I didn't want to drive another 20 miles through traffic to go downtown, so I went to this nearby place.

I got there a little early, 10-ish, the place was mostly empty. I went around talking with some of the people there. A bouncer was standing right by where I was standing, so I tried to make small talk with him, and he didn't respond and blew me off. I went to the bartender talked with him a little bit, and then I chatted with a few more people. People started coming in after 10:30, and the girls were dancing to the music. There was a life of the party guy there trying to get everyone dancing, which I appreciated a lot; I chatted with him a bit and I tried to dance. The bouncer who blew me off saw me from across the dance floor and chuckled and shook his head while looking at me. There were groups of guys standing around the dance floor, looking like NPC's. One of those guys I went up to (Sam) and asked him why are the girls dancing and the guys aren't? He gave me a typical NPC answer and seemed bummed out. I told him that he looked better than me and I was going to try to get with one of these girls tonight, I told him that I'm dancing, not that I really know how to but I'm dancing anyway. Sam just shrugged it off while I tried my own dancing moves that didn't line up with the beat (whenever the bouncer looked at me, he would scoff and laugh at me).

Sure enough, the two girls Sam was interested in approached him and dragged him to the dance floor. I gave him a smile and a nod, and I was really rooting for him. I was still trying to dance, and while trying I was watching the life of the party guy and the girls dancing. I thought to myself that I could swear that I can dance, and if I can do Muay Thai, there's no reason why I can't move synchronistically with the beat of the latin music being played. Theodore Roosevelt once said that if you believe that you can something, you're halfway there. Since I believed I could do it, and I know Muay Thai, that means that I'm more than halfway to becoming a decent dancer.

It took me about 15 minutes of awkward movements to synchronize the beat with the arm movements and footwork that I already knew, but when I did, it didn't take a minute for me to start drawing attention. Meanwhile our friend Sam looked bummed out again because the two girls broke off with him and were dancing together. I gave Sam a good pep talk, telling him that he's younger and better looking than I am, and those girls had to be at least somewhat interested in him. He told me that he didn't think he was as good looking as I was. I showed him how I danced, which he tried to do, and I shoved him back onto the dance floor in the direction of the two girls.

Another group of zoomers came in (probably freshmen), and came up to me and asked me how I was dancing. One guy said that he thought it was really cool and wanted to know how I was doing it. I showed him that most of it was in the footwork and moving my upper body to the beat of the music. The group of freshmen zoomers then perceded to dance Plinco style.

The life of the party was dancing a lot with his hips and pulling moves with the girls, like feeling them up and grinding on the hottest girl he could get near him. I watched his moves. Shortly after the zoomers pulled away dancing Plinco style, the life of the party and his buddy came up to me and asked me what I was doing, and I showed him. He got a kick ouf of that and tried to dance my way too. At one point, most of the guys in the club were dancing my way, but none of the girls (I think I know why, it came to me in an epiphany later that night). Two girls came up to me and said that I was dancing wrong and that I should be moving my hips instead of my feet. I pulled a dance move that I learned from the life of the party guy, and they said "yessss!" Then I told them "No!" and went back to my way of dancing. The girls turned around and said "Ohh myyyy gawd!" I thought to myself, "I'm the alpha here!" The bouncer at this point laughing even harder, he was giving his abs a good workout.

When the song changed, the life of the party formed a human train of people dancing in a cirlce. I grabbed another one of the NPC's who I was able to reach from where I was at like a body snatcher and pushed him into dancing with all of us. He danced for the next 30 minutes or so after that, and I think that made his night a litte better. I noticed sam was with one of the girls that he was interested in and danced with, he and her were talking off to the side. I also saw later that night that the life of the party, and his friend, and another dude also hooked up with girls. They were kissing and messing around. I was happy for the life of the party guy and Sam.

I approached one of the hottest girls in there who kept blowing guys off that night and told her that she looked good with her dance moves. She was polite with me, but her friend intervened (politely) and did most of the talking. I think the girl I was interested in wasn't into me, and that her friend was bailing her out. I was talking to both of them, but I wanted this girl. Her friend was super nice to me though, and asked me a bunch of questions. I still wanted this girl, and soon after a group of girls nearby asked if they needed a ride home, and immediatly she ran over to them. Her friend smiled and went with her.

Towards the end of the night, several people came up to me and aksed who I was, where did I come from, what do I do, etc. I told them my name, why I was there, what I was passionate about, the business I owned and another I was starting, and had all kinds of disccusions. I told them I was 41 and three quarters years old, and every person thought I was a lot younger. One guy said he thought I was in my early thirties, another said that I just don't come off like I'm as old as I am (probably because of how immature I am), I replied with "thanks." I had some good discussions when the party was winding down. Sam came up to me and shook my hand and I wished him good luck. The staff smiled at me as I left.

All of that and only one cold approach and a rejection. I had fun though.

 

[Plinco]

...most of the guys in the club were dancing my way, but none of the girls (I think I know why, it came to me in an epiphany later that night).

All of that and only one cold approach and a rejection. I had fun though.

I think I got a lot of intrigue, but I think none of the girls were interested in me sexually. It was also interesting that none of the girls were dancing like I was, just the guys. I thought about this as I went back to my hotel room, and ten minutes after putting my head on the pillow, it dawned on me. These girls' sexuality is dopamine focused. The guys who got laid that night were dancing sexually, that was what was getting the girls' attention. My moves were just as intense as their moves, but it wasn't sexual.

The other factor is, despite me supposedly looking like I'm in my early thirties, I still look a lot older than these girls do. I don't think that is an insurmountable barrier though.

But that's what turns women on sexually, the guy who can release their dopamine levels.

How the heck do I flood a chick like hers dopamine levels?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

I made a trip to Orlando yesterday evening looking for places I could go cold approach.

I can imagine the tourism office of Orlando:

"Come for the world class theme parks, slay some p00zy while you are here."

But joking aside, I respect cold approachers. Keep on keeping on

 

[DonJefe19]

Two girls came up to me and said that I was dancing wrong and that I should be moving my hips instead of my feet. I pulled a dance move that I learned from the life of the party guy, and they said "yessss!" Then I told them "No!" and went back to my way of dancing.

The chicks were right about it being a hip thing... sorta. Girls use more hips. Guys on the other hand, we use hips but it's more torso. The hips just respond to the torso movement. Think 70% shoulders/torso and 30% hips.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Two girls came up to me and said that I was dancing wrong and that I should be moving my hips instead of my feet. I pulled a dance move that I learned from the life of the party guy, and they said "yessss!" Then I told them "No!" and went back to my way of dancing. The girls turned around and said "Ohh myyyy gawd!" I thought to myself, "I'm the alpha here!"

This part stood out to me. The girls approached you because you stood out, and they were giving you an easy opening to vibe with them, whether it was playfully, socially, romantically or just out of curiosity. When you switched back to your own style and dismissed their suggestion, you basically shut down the interaction. It wasn’t a big deal since maybe you were not interested in them, but you did send them away, which is why they reacted dramatically and moved on.

You had fun and that’s what matters though.

 

[Plinco]

This part stood out to me. The girls approached you because you stood out, and they were giving you an easy opening to vibe with them, whether it was playfully, socially, romantically or just out of curiosity. When you switched back to your own style and dismissed their suggestion, you basically shut down the interaction. It wasn’t a big deal since maybe you were not interested in them, but you did send them away, which is why they reacted dramatically and moved on.

You had fun and that’s what matters though.

That may very well be the case, but I also wasn't particularly attracted to those girls.

 

[Plinco]

Stats for the month of October:

10 cold approaches

3 times I went out at night

Weigh 162 pounds

21 videos posted to social media

2 martial arts classes attended to

7 weightlifting workouts

$4,999.57 income for the month


Stats for November:

16 cold approaches

5 times I went out at night

Weigh 165 pounds

19 videos posted to social media

4 martial arts classes attended to

4 leg days and 10 arm days

$3,824.21 income for the month


My goal for December is to fix my mentality so that I can get as much effectiveness out of my cold approaches as possible. I have a plan to do that.

 

[Plinco]

I went out to my usual spot on Thursday nights, it's a country bar/club, the one that I got kicked out of one night and made a thread about it here:

Please help with this club/bar situation

*To make this constructive, do not tell me not to hit on college girls. I was at a club/bar on this Thursday night and after direct cold approaching five young ladies I get approached by a bouncer telling me to leave because he said that he got a couple of complaints about me from girls, and he...

www.sosuave.net

This place is 18+ on Thursday nights, everywhere else is 21+. They do line dancing, which is not a dance that you can fake it too much like in other types of music and clubs, line dancing is something that has to be learned at least to some degree. So I practiced a little bit, and decided that when I got in there, I would watch other people and wing it. @Scaramouche I really appreciate the suggestion. Dancing puts me in a better, relaxed mood. People also have more respect for someone who gets themself out there instead of being a wallflower.

I decided to do something different this time. Usually I look for women to hit on right away, but not this time. The first thing I did was take to the dance floor and practiced line dancing before the crowds started showing up. At first, every dance was a different set of moves that I had to watch other people, and being a step behind and looking down at their feet. Line dancing is more footwork than other dances, and that falls into my strength as far as what type of movement I'm best coordinated in. After five dances, I noticed that there are pretty regular patterns in line dancing, and it doesn't take that much practice to get it. I was more interested in the faster dances because they are a lot more fun. There was a couple of dances that I messed up on for the first bit, and after that I got it. Once I got the footwork down, then I got the rest of the body, and then really quickly after that I started adding more of my own fillers and busting moves. There was one guy that I couldn't quite match, and he was doing what I was doing plus adding in break dance moves. The bouncer who told me to leave that one time came up to me and said that I was a really good dancer, better than him for sure. I told him that it was basically my first time line dancing.

My first approach I walked up to a young lady with two of her friends. I told her that I thought she looked gorgeous and I wanted to say hi.
She goes "oh really."
I said, "yes. Whats your name?"
She gave me her name, and I asked her if she was from around the area, and what school she goes to. She asked me how old I was and I told her 41 and a half, I think she said that it wasn't a problem. She was 19. We made some small talk and I took her out on the dance floor. She hesitated because she had never danced in her entire life. I showed her some basic moves, which she caught onto. She had a big smile on her face, but then her friends looked and said something to her, and she told me that she had to go to the bathroom but would be right back. All three when in, and I kept on dancing. While I was dancing to another song, all three left the place.

The second girl I approached, I thought she had a boyfriend because of the group she was with. I went up to her and asked her who her boyfriend was just to get confirmation, and she pointed in the direction of the group that she communicated with in between dancing.

An interesting observation, is that it looked like half of the girls had rings on their left ring fingers. Some of them looked like engagement rings, yet they weren't with any man. Others you had to get a good look at it to see that it wasn't an engagement ring. I think they do this because they don't want most men hitting on them. Anyone else see this?

I left at around 12:45 when the crowd started to really thin out. When I left most of the people that were there at 10:30 were gone.

 

[Plinco]

Stats for December:

15 cold approaches (strictly cold, direct, and usually these are girls that are in a group).

2 times I went out at night

Weigh 165 pounds

18 videos posted to social media

2 martial arts classes attended to

3 leg days and 8 arm days

$4,607.50 income for the month

I met my goal for this month about making a system to correct my own mentality. It's been a success.

My next goal, for January 2026 is to fix my appearance. I need to look top notch, to the best of my ability.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I went out to my usual spot on Thursday nights, it's a country bar/club, the one that I got kicked out of one night and made a thread about it here:

Please help with this club/bar situation

*To make this constructive, do not tell me not to hit on college girls. I was at a club/bar on this Thursday night and after direct cold approaching five young ladies I get approached by a bouncer telling me to leave because he said that he got a couple of complaints about me from girls, and he...

www.sosuave.net

This place is 18+ on Thursday nights, everywhere else is 21+. They do line dancing, which is not a dance that you can fake it too much like in other types of music and clubs, line dancing is something that has to be learned at least to some degree. So I practiced a little bit, and decided that when I got in there, I would watch other people and wing it. @Scaramouche I really appreciate the suggestion. Dancing puts me in a better, relaxed mood. People also have more respect for someone who gets themself out there instead of being a wallflower.

I decided to do something different this time. Usually I look for women to hit on right away, but not this time. The first thing I did was take to the dance floor and practiced line dancing before the crowds started showing up. At first, every dance was a different set of moves that I had to watch other people, and being a step behind and looking down at their feet. Line dancing is more footwork than other dances, and that falls into my strength as far as what type of movement I'm best coordinated in. After five dances, I noticed that there are pretty regular patterns in line dancing, and it doesn't take that much practice to get it. I was more interested in the faster dances because they are a lot more fun. There was a couple of dances that I messed up on for the first bit, and after that I got it. Once I got the footwork down, then I got the rest of the body, and then really quickly after that I started adding more of my own fillers and busting moves. There was one guy that I couldn't quite match, and he was doing what I was doing plus adding in break dance moves. The bouncer who told me to leave that one time came up to me and said that I was a really good dancer, better than him for sure. I told him that it was basically my first time line dancing.

My first approach I walked up to a young lady with two of her friends. I told her that I thought she looked gorgeous and I wanted to say hi.
She goes "oh really."
I said, "yes. Whats your name?"
She gave me her name, and I asked her if she was from around the area, and what school she goes to. She asked me how old I was and I told her 41 and a half, I think she said that it wasn't a problem. She was 19. We made some small talk and I took her out on the dance floor. She hesitated because she had never danced in her entire life. I showed her some basic moves, which she caught onto. She had a big smile on her face, but then her friends looked and said something to her, and she told me that she had to go to the bathroom but would be right back. All three when in, and I kept on dancing. While I was dancing to another song, all three left the place.

The second girl I approached, I thought she had a boyfriend because of the group she was with. I went up to her and asked her who her boyfriend was just to get confirmation, and she pointed in the direction of the group that she communicated with in between dancing.

An interesting observation, is that it looked like half of the girls had rings on their left ring fingers. Some of them looked like engagement rings, yet they weren't with any man. Others you had to get a good look at it to see that it wasn't an engagement ring. I think they do this because they don't want most men hitting on them. Anyone else see this?

I left at around 12:45 when the crowd started to really thin out. When I left most of the people that were there at 10:30 were gone.

As a former DJ, I am picturing you as the cringe 40+ year old guy trying to pick up girls in the clubs and having them creeped out and running away. Every night at the club had a few...

Think you would find more success outside of clubs, IMO.

 

[Plinco]

As a former DJ, I am picturing you as the cringe 40+ year old guy trying to pick up girls in the clubs and having them creeped out and running away. Every night at the club had a few...

This might be true, or your picture of the situation could be contrived. Just because I have something in common with the 40 somethings hitting on college girls, doesn't mean I have everything else in common, or maybe I have a lot in common with them. The important thing here is that I'm working on being effective, which is why I'm here.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This might be true, or your picture of the situation could be contrived. Just because I have something in common with the 40 somethings hitting on college girls, doesn't mean I have everything else in common, or maybe I have a lot in common with them. The important thing here is that I'm working on being effective, which is why I'm here.

Trying to be Uncle Rico and relieve your glory days doesn't do any good in terms of evolving as a man. All it does it keep you stuck in the past.

The goal should be to move forward not backward, and that is definitely a backwards move.

This would be the equivalent of going and working at McDonald's for your career.

 

[Plinco]

Trying to be Uncle Rico and relieve your glory days doesn't do any good in terms of evolving as a man. All it does it keep you stuck in the past.

The goal should be to move forward not backward, and that is definitely a backwards move.

If you don't like it, then help me be effective with the college girls. The faster I find my future wife, the faster I stop hitting on them.