“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Please read! Dilemma.

Darth

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Hi everyone. I'm wondering if you can give me some advice, because it's bothering me....

There's this girl I know. Lookswise she's a 7. I mean, I think she's attractive, but she's not as pretty as some other girls. But personality wise she's like an 11. Couldn't be better. I'm in a club with her, and I have a situation where I sometimes walk 20 minutes home with her. As you can imagine, we're starting to get friendlier.

I'm also seeing another girl, several years older than me and slightly prettier than the first girl. And dancing, there are a couple really hot girls I'm not doing too badly with.

My problem is this- If I kiss the first girl, she's the type of girl that would start getting really attached to me. She will probably wind up being my girlfriend if I don't watch out. My problem is, I don't know if I could do better than her at this point in time or not. It would definitely limit my options, that's for sure.

On the other hand, I've never kissed a girl yet, period (just being honest), so part of me wonders if you have to put in your time with a girl that's not a 9 or a 10, before you can move onto that level.

See if I don't pursue her, she'll probably be a little hurt, but also, I may be shooting myself in the foot if I can't do better.

The other thing is, if I get together with her and then break up, I'll still have to talk to her the rest of the year because of this organization.

The last piece of info is, the first girl is a couple years older than me and she'll be gone after this year, if we were to get together, it would be over by next year.

All factors considered, what would you do?

thnks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Oh, the other thing is, there's another girl in this club, who is SUPER hot, but if I go after both feelings are bound to get hurt, there's no way to avoid it.
 

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**** em' both and become president of the club
 

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Who says you have to date either one of them?

Simply keep doing what you're doing. Raise the seduction levels and get somewhere with both of them until THEY bring up the relationship issue. If a girl likes you enough she will bring it up herself, and from there you can decide. It's pretty much whichever one beats the other to the punch. Or of course, anytime they ask just keep telling them you're not ready and you need time. All the while getting sexual with them until they either lose interest or you decide to date them.
 

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One thing that I didn't learn for a long time is that there's no such thing as a forced, natural progression to a relationship like what you've described, unless it's what both people want. Just because you or she is pre-conditioned to expect things to go a certain way, means nothing - you should steer the relationship in whatever direction you're interested in. She'll either be on board with that or not... and if not, next!

One more quick note: if you've never even kissed a girl, I recommend picking one, any one, and getting some experience under your belt for fvck's sake. Do you want to finally attract a 9 and then have no idea what to do with her once you have her?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So, what I'm getting is: kiss first, ask questions later.

That sounds reasonable.
 

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Just do it. Take risks. Be a Man. Eh, don't Worry about women. They change from minute to minute. If you get in trouble, so be it. Makes a great story you can share with your son some day.
 

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Well they're not *****s, but you've kind of pinpointed the problem, that being that I'm more physically attracted to another girl in the organization, but I know girl number one a lot better by this point (girl no. 1 has a head start), so even now, without me going after girl no. 2, it would be awkward to do in front of girl no. 1, even more so after having put moves on girl no. 1 (in a way it's a little late for that, I've already started, just haven't kissed her yet, but hugs and touching and stuff are going on).

Girl no. 2 only showed up last week, and we smiled at each other a lot and stuff like that, but I haven't actually gotten her one on one (which would be difficult).

Worst-case scenario: I ignore girl 1 and pursue girl no. 2, but no. 2 rejects me and now no. 1 doesn't like me for openly dropping her to go after some other girl.

And I have to see these people ALL YEAR.

That's my problem here.
 

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Visual Darkness said:
Wh0res "love" every-'body', and no-one, at the same time!!!!
You are NOT a veteran, you pvssy fvck. no veteran would ever disrespect his fellow soldiers. LIAR. PVSSY. MAGGOT. Noone ever listen to this worthless fvck!
 

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in another topic you said you dated a 21 year old girl twice

OK, so I guess it's official: I go for older girls. I like them because they take better care of themselves and they have their act together. I dated a 21 year old twice, I'm seeing a 21-22 year...
how exactly are you dating these girls when you havent even kissed them?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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^^ That was a different girl. We went out to eat but I didn't kiss her. Probably a mistake, but I'm not really focused on her anymore.
 
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