"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Please read! Dilemma.

Darth

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Hi everyone. I'm wondering if you can give me some advice, because it's bothering me....

There's this girl I know. Lookswise she's a 7. I mean, I think she's attractive, but she's not as pretty as some other girls. But personality wise she's like an 11. Couldn't be better. I'm in a club with her, and I have a situation where I sometimes walk 20 minutes home with her. As you can imagine, we're starting to get friendlier.

I'm also seeing another girl, several years older than me and slightly prettier than the first girl. And dancing, there are a couple really hot girls I'm not doing too badly with.

My problem is this- If I kiss the first girl, she's the type of girl that would start getting really attached to me. She will probably wind up being my girlfriend if I don't watch out. My problem is, I don't know if I could do better than her at this point in time or not. It would definitely limit my options, that's for sure.

On the other hand, I've never kissed a girl yet, period (just being honest), so part of me wonders if you have to put in your time with a girl that's not a 9 or a 10, before you can move onto that level.

See if I don't pursue her, she'll probably be a little hurt, but also, I may be shooting myself in the foot if I can't do better.

The other thing is, if I get together with her and then break up, I'll still have to talk to her the rest of the year because of this organization.

The last piece of info is, the first girl is a couple years older than me and she'll be gone after this year, if we were to get together, it would be over by next year.

All factors considered, what would you do?

thnks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oh, the other thing is, there's another girl in this club, who is SUPER hot, but if I go after both feelings are bound to get hurt, there's no way to avoid it.
 

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**** em' both and become president of the club
 

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Who says you have to date either one of them?

Simply keep doing what you're doing. Raise the seduction levels and get somewhere with both of them until THEY bring up the relationship issue. If a girl likes you enough she will bring it up herself, and from there you can decide. It's pretty much whichever one beats the other to the punch. Or of course, anytime they ask just keep telling them you're not ready and you need time. All the while getting sexual with them until they either lose interest or you decide to date them.
 

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One thing that I didn't learn for a long time is that there's no such thing as a forced, natural progression to a relationship like what you've described, unless it's what both people want. Just because you or she is pre-conditioned to expect things to go a certain way, means nothing - you should steer the relationship in whatever direction you're interested in. She'll either be on board with that or not... and if not, next!

One more quick note: if you've never even kissed a girl, I recommend picking one, any one, and getting some experience under your belt for fvck's sake. Do you want to finally attract a 9 and then have no idea what to do with her once you have her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So, what I'm getting is: kiss first, ask questions later.

That sounds reasonable.
 

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Just do it. Take risks. Be a Man. Eh, don't Worry about women. They change from minute to minute. If you get in trouble, so be it. Makes a great story you can share with your son some day.
 

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Well they're not *****s, but you've kind of pinpointed the problem, that being that I'm more physically attracted to another girl in the organization, but I know girl number one a lot better by this point (girl no. 1 has a head start), so even now, without me going after girl no. 2, it would be awkward to do in front of girl no. 1, even more so after having put moves on girl no. 1 (in a way it's a little late for that, I've already started, just haven't kissed her yet, but hugs and touching and stuff are going on).

Girl no. 2 only showed up last week, and we smiled at each other a lot and stuff like that, but I haven't actually gotten her one on one (which would be difficult).

Worst-case scenario: I ignore girl 1 and pursue girl no. 2, but no. 2 rejects me and now no. 1 doesn't like me for openly dropping her to go after some other girl.

And I have to see these people ALL YEAR.

That's my problem here.
 

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Visual Darkness said:
Wh0res "love" every-'body', and no-one, at the same time!!!!
You are NOT a veteran, you pvssy fvck. no veteran would ever disrespect his fellow soldiers. LIAR. PVSSY. MAGGOT. Noone ever listen to this worthless fvck!
 

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in another topic you said you dated a 21 year old girl twice

OK, so I guess it's official: I go for older girls. I like them because they take better care of themselves and they have their act together. I dated a 21 year old twice, I'm seeing a 21-22 year...
how exactly are you dating these girls when you havent even kissed them?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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^^ That was a different girl. We went out to eat but I didn't kiss her. Probably a mistake, but I'm not really focused on her anymore.
 
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