"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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- Thread starter bennyboy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Experience
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Things you'll need:
Clothes (Tux)
Vehicle
Corsage
Tickets
Before plan (Restaurant?)
After plan (Party?...etc.)
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NorwegianDJ
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Pdizzzzzzle
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Clothes (Tux): Do this like a month before prom(make sure enough time to get it tailored)Basically you need a tux. Don't go too formal (not like black and white). At prom last year I went to men's wearhouse and talked with this guy Randy. He was pretty much the chillest guy ever; and he helped me figure out what was popular at the time because he had helped so many kids earlier in the year. Basically, ask those guys for help, they know what they're doing (most of the time).
Vehicle- She asked you, she can take care of it. Probably she'll want a limo or something with her friends. If not just pick her up (do you have your licence as a sophomore?)
Corsage_ Usually like two or three weeks before prom. Find out the color of her dress. Go to your local florist and tell them you want a wristlet thing (I still don't know the proper term, but they'll know what you mean) and tell them you want it to match her dress. They'll take care of the rest.
Tickets-Buy tickets from your school....need I say more?
Before plan (Restaurant?)For me, a group of guys all met at one kids house for pictures and dinner. IMO, its better than a "romantic dinner" with just the two of you because itll loosen you up and give you confidence since your with friends
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After plan (Party?...etc.)Party like theres no tomorrow.
Good luck and remember to have fun. Soo many guys freak out. Just chill, every high school kid is in the same boat as you. Just dance your ass off, have fun, and get laid
~Pdizzzzzzle
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.