"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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- Thread starter bennyboy
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Experience
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Things you'll need:
Clothes (Tux)
Vehicle
Corsage
Tickets
Before plan (Restaurant?)
After plan (Party?...etc.)
OamImrsNemo
Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
NorwegianDJ
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Pdizzzzzzle
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Clothes (Tux): Do this like a month before prom(make sure enough time to get it tailored)Basically you need a tux. Don't go too formal (not like black and white). At prom last year I went to men's wearhouse and talked with this guy Randy. He was pretty much the chillest guy ever; and he helped me figure out what was popular at the time because he had helped so many kids earlier in the year. Basically, ask those guys for help, they know what they're doing (most of the time).
Vehicle- She asked you, she can take care of it. Probably she'll want a limo or something with her friends. If not just pick her up (do you have your licence as a sophomore?)
Corsage_ Usually like two or three weeks before prom. Find out the color of her dress. Go to your local florist and tell them you want a wristlet thing (I still don't know the proper term, but they'll know what you mean) and tell them you want it to match her dress. They'll take care of the rest.
Tickets-Buy tickets from your school....need I say more?
Before plan (Restaurant?)For me, a group of guys all met at one kids house for pictures and dinner. IMO, its better than a "romantic dinner" with just the two of you because itll loosen you up and give you confidence since your with friends
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After plan (Party?...etc.)Party like theres no tomorrow.
Good luck and remember to have fun. Soo many guys freak out. Just chill, every high school kid is in the same boat as you. Just dance your ass off, have fun, and get laid
~Pdizzzzzzle
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.