"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PLEASE HELP: Can't keep it up when I need to

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Watsup. I'm a 20 year old healthy guy that doesn't smoke. I've had sex once with a girl and was able to keep it up for about 5 minutes and then it would go soft in the middle of having sex. Another time I was about to **** a girl and I couldn't even get it up. I was a little drunk that time(7 beers) but not really ****ed up. Then last night I was kinda buzzed(5 shots) but really not that ****ed up again. This chick and I were totally gonna ****, but I could not keep it up. It was hard for about a minute and then it just went soft on me. I had to say that I was just way drunk and sometimes I can't get it up when I drink: super embarrassing. So pretty much I should have had 3 nice ****s but for some reason my **** can't stay up when I'm about to have sex with a girl. I mean she gave me dome and everything and it wouldn't work. When I'm at home by myself I can keep it hard as long as I want. WTF is wrong with me?????????
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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That's what happens when the girl is not attractive, lol.

Joking aside, sounds like you're having some anxiety before you have sex. Which explains why you have no problem poppin wood at home. You're apparently worrying about something you shouldn't be at the wrong time, causing you to lose your boner.

You really need to set all your worries aside and just relax and go for it, man!
 

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If you can still have a normal boner when your at home, then this is ALL in your head. Your thinking way too much. You got too much on your mind. Relax, take a deep breath, and dont get so worked up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What is it, No Erection Week? This is really getting out of hand...
 

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alcahol and many drugs is bad for erections... anxiety is also bad for keeping erections.. poor diet is bad.. so fix those things then if you still are not good enough try stamina Rx .. it works..
 
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What if I can't just think about sex and get a boner without touching myself? Is that bad? If I stroke it I can't keep it up but I can't just get it up with my mind.

Am I the only one with this problem? All I want to do is have sex and when I finally get the chance I can't keep it up. It's bull ****. So other than not having anxiety and not thinking about it, is there any other suggestions?
 

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If you smoke, quit.
By some good multivitamins (I use Mega-Men Sport, their great)
Exercise - Increases bloodflow and decreases anxiety - 2 things that will help you pop a woody.

I do these and I pop boners randomly, even when I'm not thinking of anything sexual.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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