"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PLEASE HELP: Can't keep it up when I need to

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Watsup. I'm a 20 year old healthy guy that doesn't smoke. I've had sex once with a girl and was able to keep it up for about 5 minutes and then it would go soft in the middle of having sex. Another time I was about to **** a girl and I couldn't even get it up. I was a little drunk that time(7 beers) but not really ****ed up. Then last night I was kinda buzzed(5 shots) but really not that ****ed up again. This chick and I were totally gonna ****, but I could not keep it up. It was hard for about a minute and then it just went soft on me. I had to say that I was just way drunk and sometimes I can't get it up when I drink: super embarrassing. So pretty much I should have had 3 nice ****s but for some reason my **** can't stay up when I'm about to have sex with a girl. I mean she gave me dome and everything and it wouldn't work. When I'm at home by myself I can keep it hard as long as I want. WTF is wrong with me?????????
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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That's what happens when the girl is not attractive, lol.

Joking aside, sounds like you're having some anxiety before you have sex. Which explains why you have no problem poppin wood at home. You're apparently worrying about something you shouldn't be at the wrong time, causing you to lose your boner.

You really need to set all your worries aside and just relax and go for it, man!
 

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If you can still have a normal boner when your at home, then this is ALL in your head. Your thinking way too much. You got too much on your mind. Relax, take a deep breath, and dont get so worked up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What is it, No Erection Week? This is really getting out of hand...
 

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alcahol and many drugs is bad for erections... anxiety is also bad for keeping erections.. poor diet is bad.. so fix those things then if you still are not good enough try stamina Rx .. it works..
 
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What if I can't just think about sex and get a boner without touching myself? Is that bad? If I stroke it I can't keep it up but I can't just get it up with my mind.

Am I the only one with this problem? All I want to do is have sex and when I finally get the chance I can't keep it up. It's bull ****. So other than not having anxiety and not thinking about it, is there any other suggestions?
 

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If you smoke, quit.
By some good multivitamins (I use Mega-Men Sport, their great)
Exercise - Increases bloodflow and decreases anxiety - 2 things that will help you pop a woody.

I do these and I pop boners randomly, even when I'm not thinking of anything sexual.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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