tony-montana
Senior Don Juan
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where the fuk is he? he aint replied once. i hope that means he's out fixing himself.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In Motion said:Guys check out this picture:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/ind...366&albumID=0&imageID=16524673#a=0&i=12691471
He looks sooo much better in this one right?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LOL!Warrior74 said:Kinda creepy looking to be honest. Stalker material going down. Look at his eyes.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's where you gotta start. Check out my journal in my sig if you want to get an idea of what kinda work you need to do.Solomon said:The hair's gotta go
The stache's gotta go
Get some new gear
As a female, I agree %100 with this advice. The first two are a MUST. You are not unattractive, it is all about style here. Just these three changes (which don't even require a lot of effort) will make a big difference. And think about it, most girls don't enjoy kissing hairy lips. My guess is, you're just not used to seeing yourself without a mustache, but it probably looks fine.Juan_Man said:1. I know you like your moustache but it really NEEDS TO GO. A 23-year-old does not need a mustache.
2. I also think you should get a haircut. Your hairstyle and sideburns make you look as though you are a part of the 1960s era. Step into the 21st century. Get your hair cut LOW. Not bald but LOW, like this photo below for example:
3. Wear some casual clothes. Regular T-shirts, light and navy blue jeans, and some short sleeved collar shirts.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.