tony-montana
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where the fuk is he? he aint replied once. i hope that means he's out fixing himself.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
In Motion said:Guys check out this picture:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/ind...366&albumID=0&imageID=16524673#a=0&i=12691471
He looks sooo much better in this one right?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOL!Warrior74 said:Kinda creepy looking to be honest. Stalker material going down. Look at his eyes.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's where you gotta start. Check out my journal in my sig if you want to get an idea of what kinda work you need to do.Solomon said:The hair's gotta go
The stache's gotta go
Get some new gear
As a female, I agree %100 with this advice. The first two are a MUST. You are not unattractive, it is all about style here. Just these three changes (which don't even require a lot of effort) will make a big difference. And think about it, most girls don't enjoy kissing hairy lips. My guess is, you're just not used to seeing yourself without a mustache, but it probably looks fine.Juan_Man said:1. I know you like your moustache but it really NEEDS TO GO. A 23-year-old does not need a mustache.
2. I also think you should get a haircut. Your hairstyle and sideburns make you look as though you are a part of the 1960s era. Step into the 21st century. Get your hair cut LOW. Not bald but LOW, like this photo below for example:
3. Wear some casual clothes. Regular T-shirts, light and navy blue jeans, and some short sleeved collar shirts.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.