tony-montana
Senior Don Juan
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where the fuk is he? he aint replied once. i hope that means he's out fixing himself.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
In Motion said:Guys check out this picture:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/ind...366&albumID=0&imageID=16524673#a=0&i=12691471
He looks sooo much better in this one right?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LOL!Warrior74 said:Kinda creepy looking to be honest. Stalker material going down. Look at his eyes.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's where you gotta start. Check out my journal in my sig if you want to get an idea of what kinda work you need to do.Solomon said:The hair's gotta go
The stache's gotta go
Get some new gear
As a female, I agree %100 with this advice. The first two are a MUST. You are not unattractive, it is all about style here. Just these three changes (which don't even require a lot of effort) will make a big difference. And think about it, most girls don't enjoy kissing hairy lips. My guess is, you're just not used to seeing yourself without a mustache, but it probably looks fine.Juan_Man said:1. I know you like your moustache but it really NEEDS TO GO. A 23-year-old does not need a mustache.
2. I also think you should get a haircut. Your hairstyle and sideburns make you look as though you are a part of the 1960s era. Step into the 21st century. Get your hair cut LOW. Not bald but LOW, like this photo below for example:
3. Wear some casual clothes. Regular T-shirts, light and navy blue jeans, and some short sleeved collar shirts.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.