"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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player v. player, thanks SS

dj_china

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HB8 has rich parents. she races in China (think Tokyo Drift, but less hardcore). and she parties. a lot
classic female player

today she says to me, after passionately making out in a cafe
"I'm a player, and I think I'm going to lose this game..."

I just wanted to thank SS for everything I've learned here. those words are a huge confidence booster

and I wanted to single out Jophil and Warrior because I've learned the most from them. thanks guys. and keep up the good advice everyone
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She's trapping you, bro. She's trying to sucker you into thinking she's falling for you so you lower your guard. She'll be over you once you stop playin' da game!
 

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girl racers are not sexy at all... i'd rather be the adrenaline junkie in a relationship, not vice versa. Female players are also not sexy, unless you enjoy pitting your dj skills/experience against the female version's...it would be too much mind games, and like the piano master mentioned, you'll be given shit tests up the ying-yang. If thats your thing, well good luck
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Semtex said:
girl racers are not sexy at all... i'd rather be the adrenaline junkie in a relationship, not vice versa. Female players are also not sexy, unless you enjoy pitting your dj skills/experience against the female version's...it would be too much mind games, and like the piano master mentioned, you'll be given shit tests up the ying-yang. If thats your thing, well good luck
Competitive weightlifters don't exercise/practice with what they think they can handle, they push the edge.

They load them down with just a little more weight than they think they can handle.

No matter what happens he'll have learned much more than if he just picked up an easy lay.

He wants a challenge, she wants a challenge, it's all good!
 
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