"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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play it cool or advance?

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Met a girl last week at a bar, made out and i got her phone number. Texted her and she texted me back, asked her out she said she couldnt but when i didnt respond to that txt she texted me again.

Then it stopped, but I txted her again last friday, just casual convo. So what do i do now? Should i play it cool and wait? Will probably see her in the weekend at the bar cause she goes out a lot...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Stop the texting and make a date to meet her and go out. Otherwise just see her at the bar. No need for extensive texting if you're not going to make a move.
 
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What did she say when she texted you after you didn't respond to her "I can't" message?

Vacuum/silence can work to your advantage. Sometimes a girl will just send another message to make sure she still "has you" type thing. Finding that with one girl I am interacting with now.

I agree with the other poster. Don't bother texting back and forth. Just make arrangements for a date. Instead of a specific day you could say "what day works for you this week" or something to that effect and go from there.
 
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What I'm finding is that is you do not contact her and she's interested, she will contact you. It may take a week or two. But she will call. If she's not interested, she won't. Do not chase. If you see her in person make no mention of the texts just pick up where you left off.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Thanks guys, I'll play it cool and wait. Will hopefully see her irl soon where i can then do my thing. Once met a girl, texted her and got no response, 4 weeks later on a late friday night she texts me asking if i want to ''watch a movie'' with her, and you all know what happened afterwards...
 
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