"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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play it cool or advance?

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Met a girl last week at a bar, made out and i got her phone number. Texted her and she texted me back, asked her out she said she couldnt but when i didnt respond to that txt she texted me again.

Then it stopped, but I txted her again last friday, just casual convo. So what do i do now? Should i play it cool and wait? Will probably see her in the weekend at the bar cause she goes out a lot...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton

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Stop the texting and make a date to meet her and go out. Otherwise just see her at the bar. No need for extensive texting if you're not going to make a move.
 

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What did she say when she texted you after you didn't respond to her "I can't" message?

Vacuum/silence can work to your advantage. Sometimes a girl will just send another message to make sure she still "has you" type thing. Finding that with one girl I am interacting with now.

I agree with the other poster. Don't bother texting back and forth. Just make arrangements for a date. Instead of a specific day you could say "what day works for you this week" or something to that effect and go from there.
 

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What I'm finding is that is you do not contact her and she's interested, she will contact you. It may take a week or two. But she will call. If she's not interested, she won't. Do not chase. If you see her in person make no mention of the texts just pick up where you left off.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Thanks guys, I'll play it cool and wait. Will hopefully see her irl soon where i can then do my thing. Once met a girl, texted her and got no response, 4 weeks later on a late friday night she texts me asking if i want to ''watch a movie'' with her, and you all know what happened afterwards...
 
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