My current plate of 3 months has just made friends with another girl who I went with once, more or less the same time I was starting to date my plate. With the other girl it didnt go anywhere as we only had one date, but now my plate is telling me about her new friend (the other girl) all the time. Im starting to question weather they talked about me and now my plate is just waiting for me to tell her I went out with this girl. What should I do now, just say non chalantly I went out once with this other girl, or if I meet her (which could happen in the near future) just act surprised then and say something like "oh yea, we´ve met before" ?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Plate meets former date
- Thread starter Juanto
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Nothing wrong telling her since you in position of power. Even make joke about it
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The hamster wheel is a spinning!!!!
From what you say, they didn't overlap. If you feel the need to say something then say "oh yea, I went on one date with her"
If anything arises after that, simply say "she was the past, you are my present, I moved on from her because she wasnt right for me. Eventually I found you and we are dating".
I subscribe to the mindset that, if you are not asked, you need not provide an answer.
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You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I'd forget about the whole thing. If asked say we may have gone on one outing. Now that I think about it she smelled really good. And then change the susjet.
You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
My plate has told me almost the entire life of the other girl but I didnt cave and say I went on a date with her. I believe they overlapped but it was in the beginning as I was getting to know both.
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well, if it eventually comes up, just spin it the manner of "she wasnt important enough in my life for me to even mention, that's why I didnt bother"