My current plate of 3 months has just made friends with another girl who I went with once, more or less the same time I was starting to date my plate. With the other girl it didnt go anywhere as we only had one date, but now my plate is telling me about her new friend (the other girl) all the time. Im starting to question weather they talked about me and now my plate is just waiting for me to tell her I went out with this girl. What should I do now, just say non chalantly I went out once with this other girl, or if I meet her (which could happen in the near future) just act surprised then and say something like "oh yea, we´ve met before" ?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Plate meets former date
- Thread starter Juanto
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Von
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Nothing wrong telling her since you in position of power. Even make joke about it
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The hamster wheel is a spinning!!!!
From what you say, they didn't overlap. If you feel the need to say something then say "oh yea, I went on one date with her"
If anything arises after that, simply say "she was the past, you are my present, I moved on from her because she wasnt right for me. Eventually I found you and we are dating".
I subscribe to the mindset that, if you are not asked, you need not provide an answer.
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You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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I'd forget about the whole thing. If asked say we may have gone on one outing. Now that I think about it she smelled really good. And then change the susjet.
You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
My plate has told me almost the entire life of the other girl but I didnt cave and say I went on a date with her. I believe they overlapped but it was in the beginning as I was getting to know both.
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well, if it eventually comes up, just spin it the manner of "she wasnt important enough in my life for me to even mention, that's why I didnt bother"