My current plate of 3 months has just made friends with another girl who I went with once, more or less the same time I was starting to date my plate. With the other girl it didnt go anywhere as we only had one date, but now my plate is telling me about her new friend (the other girl) all the time. Im starting to question weather they talked about me and now my plate is just waiting for me to tell her I went out with this girl. What should I do now, just say non chalantly I went out once with this other girl, or if I meet her (which could happen in the near future) just act surprised then and say something like "oh yea, we´ve met before" ?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Plate meets former date
- Thread starter Juanto
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Von
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Nothing wrong telling her since you in position of power. Even make joke about it
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The hamster wheel is a spinning!!!!
From what you say, they didn't overlap. If you feel the need to say something then say "oh yea, I went on one date with her"
If anything arises after that, simply say "she was the past, you are my present, I moved on from her because she wasnt right for me. Eventually I found you and we are dating".
I subscribe to the mindset that, if you are not asked, you need not provide an answer.
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You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I'd forget about the whole thing. If asked say we may have gone on one outing. Now that I think about it she smelled really good. And then change the susjet.
You got to just chill, man. If it comes up casually in the conversation make a brief passing comment, joke, and start a new topic, whatevs. I wouldn't worry about them being friends on Facebook. All that matters is what Juanto thinks of this new plate (additionally, is she worth investing more of your time with her?). Juanto is over the old plate. Remember your frame. The hamster, like sazc said will just drain your headspace from having fun with the new plate, hobbies, friends, family, work, school, etc.
My plate has told me almost the entire life of the other girl but I didnt cave and say I went on a date with her. I believe they overlapped but it was in the beginning as I was getting to know both.
sazc
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well, if it eventually comes up, just spin it the manner of "she wasnt important enough in my life for me to even mention, that's why I didnt bother"