so im going to be spending time with my soon to be gf for new years eve. i dont really have any plans since its kinda last minute. i was going to a party but i kinda want some one on one time. anyone here wanna share some ideas?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Some people enjoy staying in and relaxing as opposed to going out, especially on NYE. It's expensive, very crowded, excessive amount of drunks doing stupid things, etc. I have several friends that sit at home and watch their TV until midnight, then go to sleep. I just make sure to find the right people to hang out with.ILikeGirls<3 said:Friend A called 5 dudes, got blown off by 4 and 1 was staying in honest. My best friend called a kid who was having a party, and he wont answer. One girl I know is eating in with her parents... right. WTF so stuck up in New Jersey! I'm restless so I had to let a little AFC go lol, you can understand how frustrating this is. Not so much that I can't go to a bar myself which I can, but that my friends don't even care that they are sitting home doing nothing on New Years Eve. Does anyone on here have a friend who when you say, "Let's go out its New Years Eve." they go "So?"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.