When you throw out those terms, you are trolling.why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
Thanks for playing.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When you throw out those terms, you are trolling.why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The "fake" confidence guys may be gettiing tons of puzzy. Thus they are drenched in confidence something an incel has deprived himself of.Oh give me a fvcking break dude, why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
Did you find out she was doing all the things she say she doesnt do with others?This. It’s so hard to believe how many men out there honestly don’t believe that a woman has no problem wasting your time. Then hanging out with you and doing stuff (even if it’s on a regular basis!) is wasting your time if you aren’t getting what you want. They really do feed off attention more than guys have a clue about. I’ve learned this the hard way so I speak from experience. I once went on “dates” with a girl for 7 months. 7 months! Got absolutely nothing passed 1st base. Ever. And I tried, God did I try. She even had me believing her excuses “sorry I just have a really low sex drive. Sorry I don’t hold eye contact because I feel vulnerable. Sorry I’m just not the touchy feely type.” I bought into ALL of it. Why? Because she kept asking to hangout and she’d never use the word friends, she’d act like we were dating, she’d invite ME on trips. I’m telling you we did all the relationship stuff you could imagine but never anything past kissing. Looking back after all those years I feel sooo stupid that she wasted so much of my time and that I bought all her excuses, but I did learn from it. 3 dates, no sex no Robert anymore. It’s a hard line but it’s effective at weeding out the time wasters.
Not really but deep down I knew better. She would talk too much about her sexual past that it just wasn’t adding up. I thought for the longest time maybe she was on medication for anxiety or depression or something but even then, seems like those would be lifelong problems not recent ones to give her low sex drive. Did I think she had severe low self esteem issues? Yes.Did you find out she was doing all the things she say she doesnt do with others?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If she flakes, then make it your mission to pick up another girl while you are out and take her back to your hotel!So I texted her today to make plans.
Me: What tome do you get off work tomorrow? Let's meet up after and misbehave Haha
Her: I get off at 5!!
Me: are you down then? I plan to get there at around 7pm.
Her: yes, I'll go to work in early tomorrow to see if I can leave earlier. (She has family in the city were meeting in so she has a place to stay)
Me: Ok cool, it's set then. I'll see you tomorrow.
Me: I'm thinking of pregaming at a restaurant then hitting up a club.
Her:So you plan to be in town around 7 right?
Her: Well go wherever you want *smiley face*
Me: Yeah around 7, we can meet at my hotel and well leave from there.
So it seems like shes legit, ima go ahead and book a room. But man if she flakes ima be pissed, but I dont think she will.
This^If she flakes, then make it your mission to pick up another girl while you are out and take her back to your hotel!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
And if it's not fine, then she has other reasons for getting to know you that are not in your best interest.Never bend over backwards planning dates, especially in the early phase of courtship.
I like to keep it simple: I invite them to drink with me, and I am very specific with day, time, and place.
A drink at a local watering hole is absolutely fine...always...for the first meetup.
Can we simplify it to 3 date rule and easy access to sex means shes properly interested?And if it's not fine, then she has other reasons for getting to know you that are not in your best interest.