When you throw out those terms, you are trolling.why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
Thanks for playing.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When you throw out those terms, you are trolling.why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The "fake" confidence guys may be gettiing tons of puzzy. Thus they are drenched in confidence something an incel has deprived himself of.Oh give me a fvcking break dude, why is everyone on here speaking like they are some alpha male A-list super star lol. I am a recovering incel, that fake confidence and abundance mentality ain't gonna fly.
Did you find out she was doing all the things she say she doesnt do with others?This. It’s so hard to believe how many men out there honestly don’t believe that a woman has no problem wasting your time. Then hanging out with you and doing stuff (even if it’s on a regular basis!) is wasting your time if you aren’t getting what you want. They really do feed off attention more than guys have a clue about. I’ve learned this the hard way so I speak from experience. I once went on “dates” with a girl for 7 months. 7 months! Got absolutely nothing passed 1st base. Ever. And I tried, God did I try. She even had me believing her excuses “sorry I just have a really low sex drive. Sorry I don’t hold eye contact because I feel vulnerable. Sorry I’m just not the touchy feely type.” I bought into ALL of it. Why? Because she kept asking to hangout and she’d never use the word friends, she’d act like we were dating, she’d invite ME on trips. I’m telling you we did all the relationship stuff you could imagine but never anything past kissing. Looking back after all those years I feel sooo stupid that she wasted so much of my time and that I bought all her excuses, but I did learn from it. 3 dates, no sex no Robert anymore. It’s a hard line but it’s effective at weeding out the time wasters.
Not really but deep down I knew better. She would talk too much about her sexual past that it just wasn’t adding up. I thought for the longest time maybe she was on medication for anxiety or depression or something but even then, seems like those would be lifelong problems not recent ones to give her low sex drive. Did I think she had severe low self esteem issues? Yes.Did you find out she was doing all the things she say she doesnt do with others?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If she flakes, then make it your mission to pick up another girl while you are out and take her back to your hotel!So I texted her today to make plans.
Me: What tome do you get off work tomorrow? Let's meet up after and misbehave Haha
Her: I get off at 5!!
Me: are you down then? I plan to get there at around 7pm.
Her: yes, I'll go to work in early tomorrow to see if I can leave earlier. (She has family in the city were meeting in so she has a place to stay)
Me: Ok cool, it's set then. I'll see you tomorrow.
Me: I'm thinking of pregaming at a restaurant then hitting up a club.
Her:So you plan to be in town around 7 right?
Her: Well go wherever you want *smiley face*
Me: Yeah around 7, we can meet at my hotel and well leave from there.
So it seems like shes legit, ima go ahead and book a room. But man if she flakes ima be pissed, but I dont think she will.
This^If she flakes, then make it your mission to pick up another girl while you are out and take her back to your hotel!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And if it's not fine, then she has other reasons for getting to know you that are not in your best interest.Never bend over backwards planning dates, especially in the early phase of courtship.
I like to keep it simple: I invite them to drink with me, and I am very specific with day, time, and place.
A drink at a local watering hole is absolutely fine...always...for the first meetup.
Can we simplify it to 3 date rule and easy access to sex means shes properly interested?And if it's not fine, then she has other reasons for getting to know you that are not in your best interest.