we all eat food
Senior Don Juan
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I need a place to work, were I can up my social skills, any ideas?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Place To Work
- Thread starter we all eat food
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
2 weeks ago i got ajob at grocery store in meat deparment...while serving the customers i think ive talked more in these 2 weeks than in my whole ****ing life. i was always quiet and shy...but im seeing improvements, things are getting better finally. it will deffinetly help you
adpreston1988
Don Juan
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Where's the best place to work part-time while in college? Currently I'm working at a tutoring/learning center with elementary and middle school children. I'm planning on working part-time throughout the school year unless I can't handle my school work load. But if possible, I'd rather find a better job w/ higher pay somewhere. Any suggestions?
originaldj
Don Juan
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I aslo recommend working ata grocery store. You are forced to make friends with your coworkers who are usually around your age and you talk to a lot of strangers. You know you changed when you stop giving a shyt about pleasing the customers, and dont care if you piss them off. I think I am almost there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
The mall man...this is a no brainer yo. 