"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Picky chick says, "I don't like anything about any of the people I'm meeting, or talking to, or going on dates with"

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There was probably like one guy in the last like two months that I kind of liked ... and he's just like not in a place to date anybody right now or be in any kind of relationship ...
It's 10 o'clock ... I mean I could do anything with my night ... I'm just getting sick of being by myself all the time ... it's the second week of January and I have gone on a date each week so far so you can't say I'm not trying ... and this guy I didn't even meet on a dating app ... I met him in person last weekend, but he's just boring (tee-hee)
How will I ever afford a house by myself ... that's like the main issue ... fück being single forever ... but I don't wanna be homeless"
my opinion of her future:

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Nothing feels right!!" decries the delusional narcissist in the time-stamped section

What do these women have in common? ALL of them are heavy Koolaidholics. They all drink it to some degree, but the ones who slam it straight from the bottle are obvious, as in the video.
 

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This is a common event for women. Women are getting fussier than ever as they now have more options than ever.
 

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It ain't our job, as men, to fix scatterbrained b-tches like those in these videos. As to why men don't attend singles mixers... Same reason truly prosperous people don't frequent networking events. This s-it doesn't pan out, when everyone walks in with bloated expectations
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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As to why men don't attend singles mixers... Same reason truly prosperous people don't frequent networking events. This s-it doesn't pan out, when everyone walks in with bloated expectations
I've attended singles mixers. They are generally a waste of time. Most men don't get any first dates out of attending them, let alone quality first dates.

Most business networking events are also a waste of time. They rarely lead to new job interviews for those seeking jobs or new business deals closed for sales reps seeking new business.
 

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my opinion of her future:

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Perfect example of a woman who has options but her options aren't good enough to her, even the option that would be great boyfriend material or a decent guy she deems as "boring" when she does meet the guy she "likes" he will he just pumpNdump her.

A lot of women in 2024 have over-estimated their market value due to being pumpNdump by the men they really want and then end up making TikTok videos like this, she probably has a plethora of great guys who make great boyfriends or husbands or have potential to be but those guys aren't the ones she wants
 

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I've attended singles mixers. They are generally a waste of time. Most men don't get any first dates out of attending them, let alone quality first dates.

Most business networking events are also a waste of time. They rarely lead to new job interviews for those seeking jobs or new business deals closed for sales reps seeking new business.
Both are the equivalent of a stand-up comic instructing The MC to introduce him with words to the effect of "This is guy is f-cking hilarious, so prepare to piss yourself laughing". When we walk into a scenario with hard and fast expectations, and are highly attached to those expectations, we almost always end up disappointed in the results
 

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Probably because she is going out with lame dudes that are her doormat, dudes with no job, no car, no future or weirdos. That's 90% of what's on OLD
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It ain't our job, as men, to fix scatterbrained b-tches like those in these videos. As to why men don't attend singles mixers... Same reason truly prosperous people don't frequent networking events. This s-it doesn't pan out, when everyone walks in with bloated expectations
Actually, the one place where I have had luck in dating in the USA had been singles events. :eek: Of course, while a chick that has gone a while without a date will lower her standards a bit, eventually she thinks to herself, "am I so desperate I need to date this short guy?", and then it is OVER for me. :mad::mad::mad:
 

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Probably because she is going out with lame dudes that are her doormat, dudes with no job, no car, no future or weirdos. That's 90% of what's on OLD
I can personally attest to the fact that having a job, car & future is not enough to get a (childless, non-obese) woman. :mad::mad::mad:
 

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I can personally attest to the fact that having a job, car & future is not enough to get a (childless, non-obese) woman. :mad::mad::mad:
“That I find attractive” should be stuck on the end of your post. You’re most likely trying to swing above your average.
 

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Actually, the one place where I have had luck in dating in the USA had been singles events. :eek:
Never asserted a fella CAN'T find women at such functions.... The flings and unions which ensue are generally nowhere near as fulfilling as those one gets out of women you meet at art shows and the like though

Analogy: It's possible to still have a relatively happy life remaining in South Central LA, rather than moving up in the world to Beverly Hills. You're chances of living to be a ripe old age, instead of getting gunned down in your own living room, are much higher if you switch locations
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Perfect example of a woman who has options but her options aren't good enough to her, even the option that would be great boyfriend material or a decent guy she deems as "boring" when she does meet the guy she "likes" he will he just pumpNdump her.

A lot of women in 2024 have over-estimated their market value due to being pumpNdump by the men they really want and then end up making TikTok videos like this, she probably has a plethora of great guys who make great boyfriends or husbands or have potential to be but those guys aren't the ones she wants
You can almost hear the affirmations running through her head.
 

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She's in the cute range. A solid looking prospect. I'm thinking she's late 20s/early 30s.

On looks alone, she would be appealing to a lot of men.

She was in a bad headspace when that video was made. It was made in January and it's now July so perhaps she's in a better spot to date right now.

She would have some good options on the market now.
 

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Although such videos can be entertaining (and get old quickly), do those making and watching them think shaming in them will result in anything? I highly doubt that female anti-social behavior is going to be tamed any time soon because a generous amount of content creators are ridiculing it. Besides, social and legal measures to end it are antithetical to the aim of most men here: screw many women! If that was my aim, I would want a never-ending supply of the sort of unscrupulous, family-alienated reckless, fatherless, and impulsive women featured in such videos.
 

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“That I find attractive” should be stuck on the end of your post. You’re most likely trying to swing above your average.
All the time I see men saying there “are no good women”, we endlessly complain about them wanting this or that and rile about how unfair it is, yet we never consider it the same as a woman wanting 666, as they say. Very hypocritical.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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