"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Picking a Martial arts dojo

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To all you Karate Connoisseurs out here, what are some the qualities you look for in a legit school? I'm thinking of taking Muay Thai when I come back to America, I'll probably try out for one day and get the feel and then decide if the whole experience is worth it. I'm also interested in Aikido, I might also try out a class in that aswell.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Might go around June or July depending on family obligations. Ive gotten in really good physical shape out here, I hope to maintain it by doing more cooking and working out at that park near my house.
 

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Might go around June or July depending on family obligations. Ive gotten in really good physical shape out here, I hope to maintain it by doing more cooking and working out at that park near my house.
How long are you staying?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I love Thai boxing. Some things to look for:

This goes for any sort of (Muay Thai, BJJ etc) a really good academy will have an alumni / 'fighter' section on website of all athletes who train there. I don't think you're trying to go professional or anything so this isn't really important ----

Most important thing will be transparency. Good places will let you drop in at least once and you can get feel for place. Things to look out for: is place clean, equipment (bags to use etc), are people actually sparring (very empty place or people just standing around is not good sign) / the frequency this occur, is staff forthcoming/answer questions especially about schedule & pricing (if just shove contract in your face without explaining much of anything is a bad sign). Are the trainers respected/legitimate? Doesn't have to be successful like Payakaroon but should be someone who loves the martial art and preferably has competed before (don't want like glorified fitness instructor who "dabbled" in Muay Thai one weekend).

Age of attendees ---> some martial arts places cater to more younger crowd (obviously you want adult oriented place).

Local reviews of place will provide you with enough information to make determination. Just a matter of then visiting and seeing if like the vibe. Use what above as things to look out for. Keep clinching
 

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To all you Karate Connoisseurs out here, what are some the qualities you look for in a legit school?
Instructors and students who are decorated head to to toe in laceration scars, and who boast at least few fake teeth, thanks to the natural ones being taken out in real-time combat. 98% of what masquerades as "training" these days is essentially LARPing as a samurai
 

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Instructors and students who are decorated head to to toe in laceration scars, and who boast at least few fake teeth, thanks to the natural ones being taken out in real-time combat. 98% of what masquerades as "training" these days is essentially LARPing as a samurai
If he trained Akido and then got in a real fight, he wouldn't be around any more to post all these spam-generated nonsense threads.
 

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If he trained Akido and then got in a real fight, he wouldn't be around any more to post all these spam-generated nonsense threads.

have you trained in Aikido before? You do know most popular fights in mma are rigged and scripted because of $$$$ and Vegas bettings right? So where do you get your real life fighting inspirations from?
 

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have you trained in Aikido before? You do know most popular fights in mma are rigged and scripted because of $$$$ and Vegas bettings right? So where do you get your real life fighting inspirations from?
Brotha no offense but Aikido is non sense. You can do better than that. Do a sport that is battle tested in competitions like Muy Thai, BJJ etx.

I do agree that some UFC fights are scripted ( McGregor vs Cerrone, Jones vs Gane) etc.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Brotha no offense but Aikido is non sense. You can do better than that. Do a sport that is battle tested in competitions like Muy Thai, BJJ etx.

I do agree that some UFC fights are scripted ( McGregor vs Cerrone, Jones vs Gane) etc.
Do any type of grappling sambo judo etc you will thank me.
 

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What's the likely chances you're gonna run into a UFC fighter that is honorable and wants to fight you? The truth of the matter is you train for the everyday dirt bag freaks and thugs that are out there, that are in a bad state of consciousness and wants to cause trouble. With a little martial arts knowledge like Aikido mix with BJJ and Judo you can definitely subdue them in most situations.
 

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What's the likely chances you're gonna run into a UFC fighter that is honorable and wants to fight you? The truth of the matter is you train for the everyday dirt bag freaks and thugs that are out there, that are in a bad state of consciousness and wants to cause trouble. With a little martial arts knowledge like Aikido mix with BJJ and Judo you can definitely subdue them in most situations.
Yes I agree. Make sure you mix the Aikido with grappling tho.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Akido is trained against a non resisting opponent. So as long as you get in a fight with someone who does not resist at all, you should be good.
It's ideal MA for every summer camp counselor worth his salt, who never fails to have a Milky Way bar in his pocket, thus obliterating the likelihood of anyone fighting back
 
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