"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Photofeeler charges you to have 20 or more people rate photos for various categories.

I had a bunch of photos rated.

What is absolutely amazing is seeing how the same photo taken from two angles gets 20% variation in looks, intelligence and trustworthiness. Pictures of myself taken in 2016 range from 75% high to 25% low - amazing. My dates rates from 99% high to 42% low.

The numbers don't correspond to a 1-10 scale. They are a mathematical sorting - if you are 99% that means your photo rated higher than 99% of the people. So 51% still isn't bad as you're in the better half of photos.

Note that a photo rating for a girl tells you a LOT more about her attractiveness than a photo rating for a guy, which omits presence, height, confidence and income which mean more to women than looks. For men, think of it as pass/fail.

These huge variations underscore the need to have your profile pictures professionally reviewed to avoid having one of these slightly wrong features appear that knocks the rating down.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Even the same photo if cropped differently produces vastly different results.
 

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You need to get them rated to see it seems. It looks like I can pull in the 70 - 80 range with my photos, but some of my photos are a lot lower (as are some women I thought were hot).
 
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