Have a question here. I met this woman in California via another discussion board. We have gotten to know each other fairly well. She recently gave me her phone number on a PM message on this forum. Should I just take the intiative and call her or wait till she gives me an ok time?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Phone number
- Thread starter leeman67
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you have the number that's the greenlight to call. The only rule of thumb I have is that you need to ask someone when they answer the phone if "they have a moment to talk." You can't assume that they aren't busy doing something, or running somewhere in their car, etc. Either they have a moment or they don't. If they don't, you call again later.
It's that simple.
It's that simple.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
^^^This is kind of funny, because I did PM someone my number last night, lol.
It wasn't lee!!
It wasn't lee!!
iqqi
Master Don Juan
OR WAS IT...
lol.
lol.
logic1 said:Lee
I have to ask out of curiosity, why did she pm you on this site
Was it IQQI?
Call her when you feel its right with you. You have the opening, the ball is in your court and you can play with it as you dam well please.
No, it wasnt this site. Its someone I got to knowing a little bit and found we have alot in common. She sent me a pm last weekend while I was out of town asking me to call her last Sunday Night. Unfortunately, I never got into town till just this past Weds. I explained that on my replay to her. I may have lost out. I was hesitant mainly because I didnt want to appear desperate.