Have a question here. I met this woman in California via another discussion board. We have gotten to know each other fairly well. She recently gave me her phone number on a PM message on this forum. Should I just take the intiative and call her or wait till she gives me an ok time?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Phone number
- Thread starter leeman67
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If you have the number that's the greenlight to call. The only rule of thumb I have is that you need to ask someone when they answer the phone if "they have a moment to talk." You can't assume that they aren't busy doing something, or running somewhere in their car, etc. Either they have a moment or they don't. If they don't, you call again later.
It's that simple.
It's that simple.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
^^^This is kind of funny, because I did PM someone my number last night, lol.
It wasn't lee!!
It wasn't lee!!
iqqi
Master Don Juan
OR WAS IT...
lol.
lol.
logic1 said:Lee
I have to ask out of curiosity, why did she pm you on this site
Was it IQQI?
Call her when you feel its right with you. You have the opening, the ball is in your court and you can play with it as you dam well please.
No, it wasnt this site. Its someone I got to knowing a little bit and found we have alot in common. She sent me a pm last weekend while I was out of town asking me to call her last Sunday Night. Unfortunately, I never got into town till just this past Weds. I explained that on my replay to her. I may have lost out. I was hesitant mainly because I didnt want to appear desperate.