"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dam44

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If her decision to use WhatsApp was based on your suggestion, this is a good thing.
You'll better know if this is the case when you reach out to her upon your next attempt.
If she answers when you make the next attempt, I'd recommend going ahead and asking her out. Say something casual like ... we should grab coffee at _____ (insert place that is open and allows seating)
She had the app installed but not active on it. I guess so. Is there a way I can find out?

I'll definitely ask her out when next I call. No is the worst I can get.
By the way, her close male friend(mutual friend) told me she once said she wasn't interested in relationships. I'm still going for it though.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Black Widow Void

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She had the app installed but not active on it. I guess so. Is there a way I can find out?

I'll definitely ask her out when next I call. No is the worst I can get.
By the way, her close male friend(mutual friend) told me she once said she wasn't interested in relationships. I'm still going for it though.
At this point, you also shouldn't focus on a relationship. The main goal should be to not come across as a "pal" but instead as a man that isn't afraid to speak his mind (ask her out).
No one here bats at a 100% success rate. However, we should strive at 100% success at risking rejection and stating our intention. Otherwise, we fail (within ourselves) because we were scared of rejection.
 

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At this point, you also shouldn't focus on a relationship. The main goal should be to not come across as a "pal" but instead as a man that isn't afraid to speak his mind (ask her out).
No one here bats at a 100% success rate. However, we should strive at 100% success at risking rejection and stating our intention. Otherwise, we fail (within ourselves) because we were scared of rejection.
This is true, thank you
 

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I created a long distance relationship around phone calls and video messaging, so I know it can be done. There was a meetup on the horizon though. But the chemistry and intent was there...Trying to manufacture that attraction is tough.

Make an appointment for a "phone date" and have a time constraint so it doesn't drag on. For me that frequently was my commute. "Oop, I'm at work, gotta sign off" It signals to her you have a busy and fulfilling life, and you are offering her a portion of it.

But get a "Socially distant" date on the books outside, with your hookup logistics handled.

"Let's grab some takeout from the taco truck and go eat in my hotel room. It's got air conditioning"

"hey I know a place on the river we can go swim, lets grab some sandwiches and beer"

"My backyard is nice and shady this summer. You can meet my dog."

Make a distinct plan to meet up before you have multiple phone calls. She will feel like she knows you that much better and be more likely to convert to a lay.
 

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I created a long distance relationship around phone calls and video messaging, so I know it can be done. There was a meetup on the horizon though. But the chemistry and intent was there...Trying to manufacture that attraction is tough.

Make an appointment for a "phone date" and have a time constraint so it doesn't drag on. For me that frequently was my commute. "Oop, I'm at work, gotta sign off" It signals to her you have a busy and fulfilling life, and you are offering her a portion of it.

But get a "Socially distant" date on the books outside, with your hookup logistics handled.

"Let's grab some takeout from the taco truck and go eat in my hotel room. It's got air conditioning"

"hey I know a place on the river we can go swim, lets grab some sandwiches and beer"

"My backyard is nice and shady this summer. You can meet my dog."

Make a distinct plan to meet up before you have multiple phone calls. She will feel like she knows you that much better and be more likely to convert to a lay.
Thank you.
About Phone Date, is it just getting to know each other on the phone or what?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So there's this girl from my college I'm interested in. But the thing is she's not active on social media... Meaning I have to resort to phone calls.

I'm just curious, is there really any 'phone call game' I should follow. I've called her once and the vibe's great. But will calling her on the phone lead to any positive results? because even if I set up a date, it's until after lockdown before that happens.

What do you guys think? Should I go on with calling her? And how do I do it best.
Good vibes?
Calling the phone shows more confidence.. most guys afraid to talk to her, this is pretty crazy
Have no idea what to say but you started well, the thing is what the connection establish between you during the call? Are you free to just send her a whatsapp massege with hey whatsup
 

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Good vibes?
Calling the phone shows more confidence.. most guys afraid to talk to her, this is pretty crazy
Have no idea what to say but you started well, the thing is what the connection establish between you during the call? Are you free to just send her a whatsapp massege with hey whatsup
Yeah, I think it was good.
Haha, I'm working on my confidence. To be honest, the connection is closer to friendly than flirty but I think there are prospects.

The time here now is 1:29am so I'll have to do that later in the day.
I love planning my texts well so if you have ideas that would be appreciated
 

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Yeah, I think it was good.
Haha, I'm working on my confidence. To be honest, the connection is closer to friendly than flirty but I think there are prospects.

The time here now is 1:29am so I'll have to do that later in the day.
I love planning my texts well so if you have ideas that would be appreciated
I'm not bro I not was in the call, it's up to you
Jeffy did some videos about phone play, with all the things already said here
 
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