The inspiration for this thread comes from my recent conversation working with
@nicksaiz65 , which got me thinking about my own experiences. Considering it is the nature of this forum to have an ego when dealing with what they perceive to be disrespect or low interest from women, I wanted to offer this piece of advice.
@nicksaiz65 and I were having a conversation about a girl who matched with him on a dating app. He invited her for drinks and asked for her number, which she politely declined, saying she doesn't drink and isn't in the habit of giving her number out so soon. Before he told me about this, he didn't plan to message her back, as he assumed that was a sign of low interest. I immediately suggested he message her back, stating that until that point she had seemed interested in the conversation (SHE liked HIM on the app...AND messaged first), and provided the reason she was declining. I advised him to offer her an alternative, both in the form of the date (coffee, for example), and in terms of keeping in contact without a phone number (Instagram, Snapchat).
Now, things may not progress...but we don't know that yet. All we know is that by not responding to that message, the conversation is essentially dead, and she now thinks YOU are ghosting HER.
Play it out. You have nothing to lose.
You're not banging her now, so why not keep things going and maybe bang her in the future? Was it low interest, or was she just busy? Is she being difficult, or does she have a reason she doesn't give out her number?
The only thing you're sacrificing is your ego.
You could come here, tell us all a story about how you "didn't tolerate any disrespect" when she dared to suggest rescheduling the date because something came up at the last minute. Maybe your post would get some likes, some high fives, and the approval of unknown internet guys who agreed with your decision.
Or you could get laid.
Your choice.
If I cut off a woman every time I felt that she was ghosting me or showing me signs of low interest, I wouldn't be getting laid nearly as much as I do...
- I wouldn't have fu**ed my long-term FWB again last Wednesday or Friday, or back in August, if I'd assumed she was ghosting me, when in reality, she was busy dealing with family drama.
- I wouldn't have fu**ed the French au pair I bought the hotel room with if I'd perceived her shyness to engage in PDA by not kissing me in the bar as a sign of low interest.
- I wouldn't have fu**ed the hot college chick back in April that wanted our date to be early enough for her to go out with her friends afterwards if I'd stopped responding to her texts when she made that suggestion.
- I wouldn't have fu**ed the girl from the Dominican Republic who was visiting in Philly for New Year's if I'd thought her short, infrequent texts were a sign of low interest, rather than a byproduct of a language barrier.
And these are just the examples I can think of off the top of my head from this year alone. I'm sure there are many more if I decided to stop and think hard about it.
Play it out. You have nothing to lose.
