Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
People don't like me ..
- Thread starter cola
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
perseverance
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EvilAgenda
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I don't see the point of getting along with the average joe, unless he offers value to your life.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Exactly.EvilAgenda said:
Maybe I'm just lucky but the people whom can actually do something for me tend to like me, especially if I can do something for them in return. Those who don't like me are generally irrelevant and I've noticed that they tend to be unambitious people who are going nowhere in life. Like attracts like after all.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
If you want friends, then just focus more on showing yourself friendly to other people. If you think you're coming across as too cool, try to be more outgoing to those who might not be as cool as you. Also, start looking for mutual points of interest that you may share with other people, then start conversations with them about what you KNOW they already care about. People usually have no problems talking to you if it gives them an opportunity to share their opinion on something.cola said:
But the most important thing to ask yourself is THIS:
Do you like YOURSELF?
If you do, then what other people think about you should always be LESS important to you than that.
coochieman
Don Juan
Remember how much silent contempt and green envy you had for the so called "jerks" getting all the spots, girls, fun & respect back then?
Kind of like the same thing!
Get used to it. More importantly, enjoy it.