penkitten
Master Don Juan
for a guy that joined in nov 2007, you should know, we got married a long time ago.Nip/Tuck said:Well I was just telling you before you made the commitment. :
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
for a guy that joined in nov 2007, you should know, we got married a long time ago.Nip/Tuck said:Well I was just telling you before you made the commitment. :
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well, fire up the Wayback Machine and set it for early June, 2006.Nip/Tuck said:Well I was just telling you before you made the commitment.
Oh didn't check the date of the thread. Well if you want more proof that marriage is pretty pointless. Read some of these.Giovanni Casanova said:Well, fire up the Wayback Machine and set it for early June, 2006.
I'm sure it will be well worth your time, as I am quite stupid and therefore your brilliant thoughts about marriage and divorce would have come quite in handy.
WOW! Proof!Nip/Tuck said:Oh didn't check the date of the thread. Well if you want more proof that marriage is pretty pointless. Read some of these.
http://dapook.blogspot.com/
http://eternalbachelor.blogspot.com/
http://www.mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
http://disenfranchisedfather.blogspot.com/
Well if it's working great then good for you.
Why are you acting like an immature kid? You are being so defensive just cuz I criticized marriage. I was just pointing out how marriage is not always the best way to be in a long term relationship for others. I guess your too smart and good for my advice and opinion. Your attempt for sarcasm is lame... you shouldn't try so hard.Giovanni Casanova said:WOW! Proof!
How could I have been so blind?
For the past two years, I thought everything was going okay, but then Nip/Tuck came along with his four Blogspot links and changed my whole world!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
your talking to a man who has dealt with EVERY conceivable post like this and knows it all already. Trust me, I have known him for a long while and his humor style only strikes a chord with people that can't take a jokeNip/Tuck said:Why are you acting like an immature kid? You are being so defensive just cuz I criticized marriage. I was just pointing out how marriage is not always the best way to be in a long term relationship for others. I guess your too smart and good for my advice and opinion. Your attempt for sarcasm is lame... you shouldn't try so hard.![]()
Whatever you say. I just thought he was trying too hard to be funny. What will be more funny is when the marriage goes bad and Penkitten takes half of his stuff and he has to go live with his parents. Let's just pray that it won't happen or Penkitten is nice enough to leave his stuff alone.comic_relief said:your talking to a man who has dealt with EVERY conceivable post like this and knows it all already. Trust me, I have known him for a long while and his humor style only strikes a chord with people that can't take a joke![]()
also about it being lame. I like it and it makes me laugh my @$$ off.
comic_relief
No, that's just his way of saying he doesn't give a 5hit what you think. I also have my own opinion about the current rut that Pook is spinning in.You are being so defensive just cuz I criticized marriage.
I'm absolutely amazed at the "missing link" that people just aren't getting from sosuave. If you are secure and confident about yourself and don't tolerate any bull5hit from your woman AND you're selective about the woman you marry, you won't have to worry about her fvcking off with half of your stuff.Let's just pray that it won't happen or Penkitten is nice enough to leave his stuff alone.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
who the hell knows, but Gio's new responses brought a smile to my face.WesCottII said:...Why has this been ressurected?
because a newbie wanted to tell him not to get married as he viewed marriage as pointless, and blah blah pre nup and now is saying that if something happens i will take all gios stuff.WesCottII said:...Why has this been ressurected?
Let me apologize, I guess I was bitter since I never seen a successful marriage in my life. I guess I already have a biased opinion on marriage. Well I'm glad that you both love each other, so if anything happens you won't turn on each other. Good luck, your future kids are lucky.penkitten said:because a newbie wanted to tell him not to get married as he viewed marriage as pointless, and blah blah pre nup and now is saying that if something happens i will take all gios stuff.
we got married a while back, so i don't understand all this.
also, if there was a pre nup, it would be protecting me the most, as i am the one that entered this marriage with the property of a home.
is this guy saying that if we were to divorce that i could not have my own home that i entered the marriage with? the one i worked my butt off for, to raise my children in, for years before i ever met gio?
just for the record, we are securely happy in our marriage and plan to be together until the end of time, however if something unconceivable were to happen between us, neither of us are the type to leave the other high and dry, dollarless or homeless. i believe this with my entire heart, or i would not have married him.
my husband is a good man, not some dumb kid.
i am a good woman , not some money hungry ho.
for the members of the site, that are our friends, and have followed us from thread to thread, thank you for supporting us. we love you guys.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Awww, I love the both of you too! Especially Gio. If you wouldn't have married him, I would havewe love you guys.
i had a strange feeling.. that you would say thatDesdinova said:Awww, I love the both of you too! Especially Gio. If you wouldn't have married him, I would have![]()
I'd leave her for you, but she'd take half of my stuff and please don't make me have to choose between the sandwich maker and the pancake maker. I just cannot do it.Desdinova said:Awww, I love the both of you too! Especially Gio. If you wouldn't have married him, I would have![]()
tell you what Pen, you can have the sandwich maker, and I will take his pancake maker.Giovanni Casanova said:I'd leave her for you, but she'd take half of my stuff and please don't make me have to choose between the sandwich maker and the pancake maker. I just cannot do it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.