penkitten
Master Don Juan
for a guy that joined in nov 2007, you should know, we got married a long time ago.Nip/Tuck said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Penkitten and I Are Getting Married
- Thread starter Giovanni Casanova
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Giovanni Casanova
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Well, fire up the Wayback Machine and set it for early June, 2006.Nip/Tuck said:
I'm sure it will be well worth your time, as I am quite stupid and therefore your brilliant thoughts about marriage and divorce would have come quite in handy.
Oh didn't check the date of the thread. Well if you want more proof that marriage is pretty pointless. Read some of these.Giovanni Casanova said:
http://dapook.blogspot.com/
http://eternalbachelor.blogspot.com/
http://www.mirrorofthesoul.blogspot.com/
http://disenfranchisedfather.blogspot.com/
Well if it's working great then good for you.
Giovanni Casanova
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WOW! Proof!Nip/Tuck said:
How could I have been so blind?
For the past two years, I thought everything was going okay, but then Nip/Tuck came along with his four Blogspot links and changed my whole world!
Why are you acting like an immature kid? You are being so defensive just cuz I criticized marriage. I was just pointing out how marriage is not always the best way to be in a long term relationship for others. I guess your too smart and good for my advice and opinion. Your attempt for sarcasm is lame... you shouldn't try so hard.Giovanni Casanova said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
your talking to a man who has dealt with EVERY conceivable post like this and knows it all already. Trust me, I have known him for a long while and his humor style only strikes a chord with people that can't take a jokeNip/Tuck said:Why are you acting like an immature kid? You are being so defensive just cuz I criticized marriage. I was just pointing out how marriage is not always the best way to be in a long term relationship for others. I guess your too smart and good for my advice and opinion. Your attempt for sarcasm is lame... you shouldn't try so hard.
also about it being lame. I like it and it makes me laugh my @$$ off.
comic_relief
Whatever you say. I just thought he was trying too hard to be funny. What will be more funny is when the marriage goes bad and Penkitten takes half of his stuff and he has to go live with his parents. Let's just pray that it won't happen or Penkitten is nice enough to leave his stuff alone.comic_relief said:your talking to a man who has dealt with EVERY conceivable post like this and knows it all already. Trust me, I have known him for a long while and his humor style only strikes a chord with people that can't take a joke
also about it being lame. I like it and it makes me laugh my @$$ off.
comic_relief
iqqi
Master Don Juan
lol.
Desdinova
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No, that's just his way of saying he doesn't give a 5hit what you think. I also have my own opinion about the current rut that Pook is spinning in.
I'm absolutely amazed at the "missing link" that people just aren't getting from sosuave. If you are secure and confident about yourself and don't tolerate any bull5hit from your woman AND you're selective about the woman you marry, you won't have to worry about her fvcking off with half of your stuff.
Also, if she DOES ditch you (or you ditch her), you know you can start all over again and things will eventually get back to normal. It's just another life lesson.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
...Why has this been ressurected?
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
who the hell knows, but Gio's new responses brought a smile to my face.WesCottII said:
comic_relief
penkitten
Master Don Juan
because a newbie wanted to tell him not to get married as he viewed marriage as pointless, and blah blah pre nup and now is saying that if something happens i will take all gios stuff.WesCottII said:
we got married a while back, so i don't understand all this.
also, if there was a pre nup, it would be protecting me the most, as i am the one that entered this marriage with the property of a home.
is this guy saying that if we were to divorce that i could not have my own home that i entered the marriage with? the one i worked my butt off for, to raise my children in, for years before i ever met gio?
just for the record, we are securely happy in our marriage and plan to be together until the end of time, however if something unconceivable were to happen between us, neither of us are the type to leave the other high and dry, dollarless or homeless. i believe this with my entire heart, or i would not have married him.
my husband is a good man, not some dumb kid.
i am a good woman , not some money hungry ho.
for the members of the site, that are our friends, and have followed us from thread to thread, thank you for supporting us. we love you guys.
Let me apologize, I guess I was bitter since I never seen a successful marriage in my life. I guess I already have a biased opinion on marriage. Well I'm glad that you both love each other, so if anything happens you won't turn on each other. Good luck, your future kids are lucky.penkitten said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i had a strange feeling.. that you would say thatDesdinova said:Awww, I love the both of you too! Especially Gio. If you wouldn't have married him, I would have
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
penny, what about me??
I'm still here waiting in Hawaii!!
What are doing here?!!
I've been calling you for hours!
I've got freakin' Depeche Mode over here!!
They're tired of waiting!!
Get on a plane and get down here!!!
:moon:
I'm still here waiting in Hawaii!!
What are doing here?!!
I've been calling you for hours!
I've got freakin' Depeche Mode over here!!
They're tired of waiting!!
Get on a plane and get down here!!!
:moon:
Giovanni Casanova
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I'd leave her for you, but she'd take half of my stuff and please don't make me have to choose between the sandwich maker and the pancake maker. I just cannot do it.Desdinova said:Awww, I love the both of you too! Especially Gio. If you wouldn't have married him, I would have
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
tell you what Pen, you can have the sandwich maker, and I will take his pancake maker.Giovanni Casanova said:
comic_relief
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.