h2o
Banned
I had a hard time believing it for a while, but I think I believe you now. Congratulations and good luck. I wish the best to both of you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Penkitten and I Are Getting Married
- Thread starter Giovanni Casanova
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
CrotchSniffer
Don Juan
I think you are both completely out of your minds, but I wish you the best nonetheless. 
penkitten
Master Don Juan
aww you guys are so sweet ....
i should print this out and shove it in our wedding album ya know?
i should print this out and shove it in our wedding album ya know?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
as for an update:
today we went to the mall and i got him the bestest wedding band i have ever seen, and i paid some on it . in 3 more easy payments , my credit will be even better.
today we went to the mall and i got him the bestest wedding band i have ever seen, and i paid some on it . in 3 more easy payments , my credit will be even better.
seabreeze
Master Don Juan
This DJ story is truly one with a happy ending (or I should say beginning). Congrats again! I can't express how happy I am for you two. But, do you guys really have herpes????
SB
SB
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Teen Spirit
Banned
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Hmmm, 3 times as many people have voted for 'Penkitten, you are one lucky chick' as opposed to 'Gio, you are one lucky dude'. Interesting.
Oh, and congratulations, by the way. I hope it works out for you.
Oh, and congratulations, by the way. I hope it works out for you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
yah , hes my prizeOriginally posted by Teen Spirit
Hmmm, 3 times as many people have voted for 'Penkitten, you are one lucky chick' as opposed to 'Gio, you are one lucky dude'. Interesting.
Oh, and congratulations, by the way. I hope it works out for you.
CrotchSniffer
Don Juan
Proof that over 70% of SoSuavers are gay, (and by gay I dont mean happy)Originally posted by Teen Spirit
Hmmm, 3 times as many people have voted for 'Penkitten, you are one lucky chick' as opposed to 'Gio, you are one lucky dude'. Interesting.
Oh, and congratulations, by the way. I hope it works out for you.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
maybe they just saw my name and clicked without reading it
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
May the force, and a bottle a rum, be with you!
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
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- Location
- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
Yes.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2002
- Messages
- 5,550
- Reaction score
- 18
- Age
- 47
- Location
- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
One of the votes for "Gio, you are one lucky dude" was from me.
And as usual, my opinion is the only one that counts anyhow.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nex
Senior Don Juan
Congratulations!
I still don't think it's true, though.
But if it is,
Congratulations!
Super DJ superhero kids, that's so damn cool. Can I have one?
I still don't think it's true, though.
But if it is,
Congratulations!
Super DJ superhero kids, that's so damn cool. Can I have one?
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
You should next her.
Just kidding
Good luck
Just kidding
Good luck
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
Bloody Hell, congrats guys!
Lol, and yeah- NEXT!
Lol, and yeah- NEXT!
penkitten
Master Don Juan
its true its trueOriginally posted by Nex
Congratulations!
I still don't think it's true, though.
But if it is,
Congratulations!
Super DJ superhero kids, that's so damn cool. Can I have one?
im not sure if we will sell the kids however we will keep you in mind haha
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.