You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Agreed.Jariel said:That was so creepy and obnoxious. She was very average looking so I'm sure she was flattered by the attention. Plus I see no proof that they went on a date.
I imagine most women would get irritated by him very quickly if this is how he behaves, especially if he keeps imposing himself the way he did on that phone call. He's like a snakeoil salesman and a lot of girls will give up their number just to get him off their case, but I expect majority of them will flake as soon as they have time to think.
Scars said:I admire his fearlessness to approach, but that's about it. I don't think he's a PUA god by any means, he's simply gotten over approach anxiety. This guy needs to get into sales.
-Scars
First off, she looks like she can't wait to get away from him.Scars said:She started giving him warmer vibes towards the end, but I'm sure once she walked away and had time to process what just happened she probably spent the rest of that phone call telling her mother how much a creep he was. I admire his fearlessness to approach, but that's about it. I don't think he's a PUA god by any means, he's simply gotten over approach anxiety. This guy needs to get into sales.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
One can not make all girls like him, but one can approach all the girls he likes.zekko said:First off, she looks like she can't wait to get away from him.
Secondly, notice there's that moment when she looks directly into the camera. She knows she's being filmed. I'm not sure what that means.
Third, the title of that YouTube page is so fanboy juvenile:
PAULIE JANKA TEARING THAT **** UP!!!! NUMBER CLOSE!!! KING OF PUA!!
Umm, okay.
Instead of criticizing him you should look at yourself and see if you can act the way you really want to act without the fear of getting the girls irritated.Jariel said:That was so creepy and obnoxious. She was very average looking so I'm sure she was flattered by the attention. Plus I see no proof that they went on a date.
I imagine most women would get irritated by him very quickly if this is how he behaves, especially if he keeps imposing himself the way he did on that phone call. He's like a snakeoil salesman and a lot of girls will give up their number just to get him off their case, but I expect majority of them will flake as soon as they have time to think.
Hmm, he's asking directions.evansblue said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
But what's the point in doing that if he doesn't get laid or even a date? If I just want to fill my phone with numbers I could use a phone directory.evansblue said:Whether he slept with these two women is irrelevant. He can go up to any girl, remain calm and run smooth game. So while he might not nab every one (nobody does), he still reels in plenty through his approaches.
That's exactly what I have been doing for some time now, but my obnoxious behaviour and trying too hard is exactly what's been driving girls away and is something I've been trying to change.n00bPimp said:Instead of criticizing him you should look at yourself and see if you can act the way you really want to act without the fear of getting the girls irritated.
I couldn't help but notice the way he holds his arms. I used to hold my arms just like that when I was having an oral exam back in high school.evansblue said:
Haha!zekko said:Hmm, he's asking directions.
Maybe Paul Janka is really ALPHAROMEO.
I can't help but like you ALPHAROMEO, even though I think most of your advice is nonsense.ALPHAROMEO said:as regards asking for directions JANKA acknowledged he got the idea from me !! sort of flattering
Maybe you should get a hold of him and tell him he's infringing on your copyright.ALPHAROMEO said:JANKA acknowledged he got the idea from me !! sort of flattering
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.