You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed.Jariel said:That was so creepy and obnoxious. She was very average looking so I'm sure she was flattered by the attention. Plus I see no proof that they went on a date.
I imagine most women would get irritated by him very quickly if this is how he behaves, especially if he keeps imposing himself the way he did on that phone call. He's like a snakeoil salesman and a lot of girls will give up their number just to get him off their case, but I expect majority of them will flake as soon as they have time to think.
Scars said:I admire his fearlessness to approach, but that's about it. I don't think he's a PUA god by any means, he's simply gotten over approach anxiety. This guy needs to get into sales.
-Scars
First off, she looks like she can't wait to get away from him.Scars said:She started giving him warmer vibes towards the end, but I'm sure once she walked away and had time to process what just happened she probably spent the rest of that phone call telling her mother how much a creep he was. I admire his fearlessness to approach, but that's about it. I don't think he's a PUA god by any means, he's simply gotten over approach anxiety. This guy needs to get into sales.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
One can not make all girls like him, but one can approach all the girls he likes.zekko said:First off, she looks like she can't wait to get away from him.
Secondly, notice there's that moment when she looks directly into the camera. She knows she's being filmed. I'm not sure what that means.
Third, the title of that YouTube page is so fanboy juvenile:
PAULIE JANKA TEARING THAT **** UP!!!! NUMBER CLOSE!!! KING OF PUA!!
Umm, okay.
Instead of criticizing him you should look at yourself and see if you can act the way you really want to act without the fear of getting the girls irritated.Jariel said:That was so creepy and obnoxious. She was very average looking so I'm sure she was flattered by the attention. Plus I see no proof that they went on a date.
I imagine most women would get irritated by him very quickly if this is how he behaves, especially if he keeps imposing himself the way he did on that phone call. He's like a snakeoil salesman and a lot of girls will give up their number just to get him off their case, but I expect majority of them will flake as soon as they have time to think.
Hmm, he's asking directions.evansblue said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But what's the point in doing that if he doesn't get laid or even a date? If I just want to fill my phone with numbers I could use a phone directory.evansblue said:Whether he slept with these two women is irrelevant. He can go up to any girl, remain calm and run smooth game. So while he might not nab every one (nobody does), he still reels in plenty through his approaches.
That's exactly what I have been doing for some time now, but my obnoxious behaviour and trying too hard is exactly what's been driving girls away and is something I've been trying to change.n00bPimp said:Instead of criticizing him you should look at yourself and see if you can act the way you really want to act without the fear of getting the girls irritated.
I couldn't help but notice the way he holds his arms. I used to hold my arms just like that when I was having an oral exam back in high school.evansblue said:
Haha!zekko said:Hmm, he's asking directions.
Maybe Paul Janka is really ALPHAROMEO.
I can't help but like you ALPHAROMEO, even though I think most of your advice is nonsense.ALPHAROMEO said:as regards asking for directions JANKA acknowledged he got the idea from me !! sort of flattering
Maybe you should get a hold of him and tell him he's infringing on your copyright.ALPHAROMEO said:JANKA acknowledged he got the idea from me !! sort of flattering
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.