You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Then go somewhere else. It was an example. If you don't like the location, then choose something different.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So the best advice you have to offer is "leave my house."
And approach. You said that you are braver and have more value than 99.9% of the population, go out and prove it. You are not even in the game, much less competing. Prove to women and yes, men that you have something substantial to offer. You can think you possess as much value as you want and you should, so long as it isn't a hindrance, but it doesn't mean jack, until you have proven it. Life is a competition, whether you want to believe it or not. If you want friendship, go be amongst men that hold similar values and prove your worth to the tribe. If you want a woman, go out and prove you can lead. You don't have to verbally convince anyone. Your value will be evident in demeanor and the way you handle yourself. All that is left is to take what you want.
What game?
EXACTLY... how else are you going to find out if a chick is right for you. I took one chick to the gun range... she was some knid of vegan hippy chick... I thought she would hate it, but that is what I wanted to do. She actually liked it... we dated for 8 months... which is pretty long for me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Then, why are you on this forum?