Man she is already the only thing in your head if you think about this stuff
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Part two with the chick that works for me...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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She's fvckin with you and she loves it. Do you really think you're the only guy she flirts with and I bet she is banging other guys, maybe even that ex. You lost your frame, you are not dominant, maybe you think you are but you're not because if you we're, you wouldn't be so bumped up with that ex thing. Also, she's hanging out with her ex is a huge red flag. Not worth my time and nerves if I was you.
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The ex has had sex with her a lot, you haven't. He is 1000000 times more of an emotional place in her mind than you.
Either make a move or don't. What you are doing right now is nothing other than trying to overanalyze every little thing that happens. Do you think she is doing this? My God all she has going for her is being hot and young and you are dedicating this much mental space in your mind to her??
C'mon man...you gotta find more options because you aren't thinking clearly, you are coming from a scarcity mindset.
TheGambino
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I know she is probably fvckin him all week again and now she got him to says orry to her family.
ok, what I’m thinking is; should I ask her out this week to eat at my place and go for it or did she just use me to play and distract her from everything. I see the situation clearly but this how it feels.
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By everything we know about her, don't do it. It's not worth, she's probably playfull little b1tch that only wants to take advantage of you being her boss. So if you bang her, it will only backfire at you, she will have power possibly blackmailing you. It's not worth the afterwards drama.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The other way around. She talks to you because her ex has not made the (correct) move on her.
Remember they were in a relationship together. Her ex is the incumbent in this situation, you are the ´maybe´.
I had a similar situation with a broad from work. I was her trainer. She gave me the story about how her ex was a cheater, blah blah. Her ex was temporarily out of the picture as he lived 4 hours away. We got really close over the couple weeks I was training her. Flirting to where people around my office would tease me about her after she took up her post in a different department.
She cooked and invited me to her apartment multiple times. But I liked her and did not want to bang her as yet since I found she had too much drama going on (her ex stole her car and drove back to his state, and left his car with her. On top of this, he was paying her rent and would show up every couple weeks unannounced). I thought I could continue to flirt but not bang her and somehow things would work itself out. I was not red pill at the time.
Bottom line she got tired of flirting with me and pulled away hard after couple months and left me looking like a fool. Probably disgusted I wouldnt take charge and fvck her. Learn what you can from this lesson. If you continue to flirt hard and dont make a move, she will be repulsed by that weakness eventually leaving you instead of you leaving her. But if you decide to bang her, know you may be running a risk. You spoke about her in possible LTR terms. If so, she will need to decompress from her past relationship over a couple months. It wont be healthy to consider her for that role too soon since her ex is still very much involved in her life and family life too!
But I still maintain that you should leave her alone.
no you don't, ask another girl out, then **** teh new girl, then you will see all this disapear
Serenity
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Whatever happened to this? Stick to this and you'll spare yourself some pain.
We have already established that what you think of as "heavy flirting" is just a bit of playful banter that could mean nothing close to what you wish for. Your hamster is spinning at the speed of light right now, this is plain obvious to everyone in this thread except yourself. She has her ex on her mind, not you. Besides being her boss you're just entertainment for her.
Even if she would want to fvck you it's an extremely bad idea. She'll have your balls in a vise, you should never give her that leverage. Go for it if she quits one day, whatever, but as long as she's your employee you are risking WAAAY too much just for a little pvssy.
Think with the big head, currently it's clearly the small head running the show.