i've had a few painfully bad mistakes in the past few weeks that I want to share so that anyone who has remedial game like myself can learn. What you need to remember, what i need to remember, is that everything is a test when dealing with women. So there's this girl a HB9 that I've played it cool with, she was messaging me everyday. I didn't respond everyday. She obviously wanted me. Last time I saw her at the bar in the middle of the week she invited me to a diner with her and her friends, but i was with my friends so i declined. she messages me at like 3 in the morning to ask why i didnt come. this was the best move i made. making myself unavaliable but still flirtatious. anyway, long story short. she kept on me. we were supposed to meet at a bar at 10:30... its 10:45 and i leave. Now i should have stayed gone, but i come back at around 11:15 and she walks in then. this is a elementary test that she was running on me to see if i had a sac. i came back, this is a big ****1ng mistake my friends. i just handed over my nuts. then i agreed to go to another bar with her and her friends. i can guarantee you i gave up this easy ass and that she will never try to get with me. handle your game properly, don't act like a douche like i did. it burns when you mess up an opportunity like this.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
painful lessons
- Thread starter mountain
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
it sucks when you put forth effort to lead up to this point and then blow it in the endgame. its like chess... you can make a fatal mistake even at the end.
seems like you know what youre doing now, tho. mistakes are simply lessons learned
seems like you know what youre doing now, tho. mistakes are simply lessons learned
I think you a focusing too much on playing the game.
She has clearly shown interest in you - I think you need to focus on being a fun, cool, happy guy around her when you are around her and this other stuff won't matter. You already got past the initial cat/mouse game with her - just go for it!
She has clearly shown interest in you - I think you need to focus on being a fun, cool, happy guy around her when you are around her and this other stuff won't matter. You already got past the initial cat/mouse game with her - just go for it!