i've had a few painfully bad mistakes in the past few weeks that I want to share so that anyone who has remedial game like myself can learn. What you need to remember, what i need to remember, is that everything is a test when dealing with women. So there's this girl a HB9 that I've played it cool with, she was messaging me everyday. I didn't respond everyday. She obviously wanted me. Last time I saw her at the bar in the middle of the week she invited me to a diner with her and her friends, but i was with my friends so i declined. she messages me at like 3 in the morning to ask why i didnt come. this was the best move i made. making myself unavaliable but still flirtatious. anyway, long story short. she kept on me. we were supposed to meet at a bar at 10:30... its 10:45 and i leave. Now i should have stayed gone, but i come back at around 11:15 and she walks in then. this is a elementary test that she was running on me to see if i had a sac. i came back, this is a big ****1ng mistake my friends. i just handed over my nuts. then i agreed to go to another bar with her and her friends. i can guarantee you i gave up this easy ass and that she will never try to get with me. handle your game properly, don't act like a douche like i did. it burns when you mess up an opportunity like this.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
painful lessons
- Thread starter mountain
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
it sucks when you put forth effort to lead up to this point and then blow it in the endgame. its like chess... you can make a fatal mistake even at the end.
seems like you know what youre doing now, tho. mistakes are simply lessons learned
seems like you know what youre doing now, tho. mistakes are simply lessons learned
I think you a focusing too much on playing the game.
She has clearly shown interest in you - I think you need to focus on being a fun, cool, happy guy around her when you are around her and this other stuff won't matter. You already got past the initial cat/mouse game with her - just go for it!
She has clearly shown interest in you - I think you need to focus on being a fun, cool, happy guy around her when you are around her and this other stuff won't matter. You already got past the initial cat/mouse game with her - just go for it!