"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There are enough threads around saying what went wrong. Instead I wish to have a thread full of accomplishments and optimism.

I was on a date(day one) recently and was interrupted when I was about to tell a short story. She noticed right away and said "I'm sorry, you were saying?".

I, of course, lost my train of thought. In my AFCs days I would panicked in that situation and dug my self a hole. Instead I was comfortable and recovered. It wasn't even noticeable in the grand scheme of things.

Progress. Tis good.

Whats your story of optimism?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm going to Barcelona with my pals for a vacation! I'm going to the army (which might suck at first but when I come out I'll be in tip-top shape)!
I'm after the army starting to work-out regularly which I'm seeing forward too ALOT! :)
And right now I'm going for a beer with my friend! CIAO!
 
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-got one of the best bj's ever last week, the girl is f#ckin crazy, but she wants me to come over this week.

-i read a lot about approach anxiety on here, but i'm about three and a half weeks in, and it hasn't been an issue yet

-half my friends lost thier jobs or are broke with the current state of the economy(including myself) and somehow we're all remaining optimistic about the whole thing. i hang with some chipper motherf#ckers!!

-i'm meeting new women all the time thanks to the advice on sosuave

- i started running and have already lost a little weight and am feeling great(still working on quitting smoking though)

-i paid my part of my sisters tuition for NYU because my parents couldn'tafford it and was bummed about being broke. then karma came around and one of my buddies in holland won 55,000 euros and is going to fly me out to cabo san lucas for a couple weeks in january, all expenses paid!!

- i literally have no bad news to report, sh!t is lookin up in brownbears world, circumstances be damned

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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