Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hehehe,..this is a "myspace angle" shotLatinoman said:Pam Houston (the writer) is "adorable": http://wwwenglish.ucdavis.edu/faculty/Houston/default.html
LOL.Rollo Tomassi said:Hehehe,..this is a "myspace angle" shot
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ha ha ha ha ! Brilliant quip.Mr. Me said:^^^ to the chagrin of Dentists everywhere...
Oh f@ck! Did I write "those little birds"? Oh, darn... I'm showing my deep resentment harboring on narcissism bordering on emotional disorder, with a pinch of misogyny and a trace of anger.
MooseGod said:I think a much better criteria is from that John Mellencamp song... "I need a lover that won't drive me crazy."
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think debt load JOE. Credit debt becomes community debt after marriage. Women may consider their college educations a point of pride, but the student loans and credit card debt the vast majority of them end up with after college is epidemic. Combine this with the fact that women have always been the prime consumer demographic in the U.S. and you can see why being wary of a woman in debt is always a good idea.Joe The Homophobe said:So it matters to you if your gf has no money? I don't care about her financial situation as long as im attracted to her.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.