She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hehehe,..this is a "myspace angle" shotLatinoman said:Pam Houston (the writer) is "adorable": http://wwwenglish.ucdavis.edu/faculty/Houston/default.html
LOL.Rollo Tomassi said:Hehehe,..this is a "myspace angle" shot
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ha ha ha ha ! Brilliant quip.Mr. Me said:^^^ to the chagrin of Dentists everywhere...
Oh f@ck! Did I write "those little birds"? Oh, darn... I'm showing my deep resentment harboring on narcissism bordering on emotional disorder, with a pinch of misogyny and a trace of anger.
MooseGod said:I think a much better criteria is from that John Mellencamp song... "I need a lover that won't drive me crazy."
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Think debt load JOE. Credit debt becomes community debt after marriage. Women may consider their college educations a point of pride, but the student loans and credit card debt the vast majority of them end up with after college is epidemic. Combine this with the fact that women have always been the prime consumer demographic in the U.S. and you can see why being wary of a woman in debt is always a good idea.Joe The Homophobe said:So it matters to you if your gf has no money? I don't care about her financial situation as long as im attracted to her.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.