backbreaker
Master Don Juan
is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
opinion...when you get LJBF'ed
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yunghova35
Don Juan
It really all depends see as a friend you can have the chick introduce you to her friends and go out with her to clubs and use her to pick up more chicks.
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
TillTheEndOfTime
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It's better to just move on completely. Every time you see her you're going to remember and that is going to hurt your game.Originally posted by backbreaker
is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
Of course the girl will try to convince you otherwise because you're still valuable to her as emotional support and attention when she's not getting any. Don't listen.
it also depends on the terms in which you've been LJBF was it a rejection LJBF or was it a LJBF after an ecounter.
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
backbreaker
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basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
see i've been LJBF'ed on those terms also well not EXACTLY those terms, like we were "talking" and they said i wanna get to know you better first and be friends before anything happens IF anything happens.Originally posted by backbreaker
basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
never just.. "well lets just be friends" but i dunno i mean its not like you got flat out rejected maybe you did jump the gun a little, on the flip side you do what makes you feel good
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Sure I'd be her friend that's no big deal. Ofcourse I'm not one of those friends who keeps in touch all that much. I've got well over 100 names in my phone but I'd say I acutally speak to less then 5 of those "friends" on a regular basis.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
i see what you mean, kinda have it both ways
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I like your bluntness. I would move on.