backbreaker
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is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
opinion...when you get LJBF'ed
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yunghova35
Don Juan
It really all depends see as a friend you can have the chick introduce you to her friends and go out with her to clubs and use her to pick up more chicks.
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
TillTheEndOfTime
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It's better to just move on completely. Every time you see her you're going to remember and that is going to hurt your game.Originally posted by backbreaker
is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
Of course the girl will try to convince you otherwise because you're still valuable to her as emotional support and attention when she's not getting any. Don't listen.
it also depends on the terms in which you've been LJBF was it a rejection LJBF or was it a LJBF after an ecounter.
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
backbreaker
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basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
see i've been LJBF'ed on those terms also well not EXACTLY those terms, like we were "talking" and they said i wanna get to know you better first and be friends before anything happens IF anything happens.Originally posted by backbreaker
basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.
Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
never just.. "well lets just be friends" but i dunno i mean its not like you got flat out rejected maybe you did jump the gun a little, on the flip side you do what makes you feel good
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Sure I'd be her friend that's no big deal. Ofcourse I'm not one of those friends who keeps in touch all that much. I've got well over 100 names in my phone but I'd say I acutally speak to less then 5 of those "friends" on a regular basis.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
backbreaker
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i see what you mean, kinda have it both ways
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I like your bluntness. I would move on.