"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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opinion...when you get LJBF'ed

backbreaker

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is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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yunghova35

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It really all depends see as a friend you can have the chick introduce you to her friends and go out with her to clubs and use her to pick up more chicks.

I would personally just move on cuz i dont see the purpose in being a FRIEND with a chick, but i've never been LJBF'ed either
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Originally posted by backbreaker
is it better to actually stay as a friend, or to move on completely?
It's better to just move on completely. Every time you see her you're going to remember and that is going to hurt your game.

Of course the girl will try to convince you otherwise because you're still valuable to her as emotional support and attention when she's not getting any. Don't listen.
 

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it also depends on the terms in which you've been LJBF was it a rejection LJBF or was it a LJBF after an ecounter.

there's a lot of ways to look at it but some of the time depending on the situaiton the whole LJBF is a defnese mechanisim.. unless you tried to put a move on her and she rejected you with LJBF in that case its pretty set in stone
 

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basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.

Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by backbreaker
basically I got tired of this girl acting like she likes me, and asked her did she like me or not, said LJBF, and I told her if that was the case I have to move on, I don't have "friends" that are women that I want to have sex with, because you really can't be a real friend.

Wanted to know if you thought I went a little overboard, because she does.
see i've been LJBF'ed on those terms also well not EXACTLY those terms, like we were "talking" and they said i wanna get to know you better first and be friends before anything happens IF anything happens.

never just.. "well lets just be friends" but i dunno i mean its not like you got flat out rejected maybe you did jump the gun a little, on the flip side you do what makes you feel good
 

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Sure I'd be her friend that's no big deal. Ofcourse I'm not one of those friends who keeps in touch all that much. I've got well over 100 names in my phone but I'd say I acutally speak to less then 5 of those "friends" on a regular basis.

It's easy to lose touch with "freinds" so a girl who's your friend can still just be your friend, but I doubt you'll talk to her all that much afterwards.
 

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I like your bluntness. I would move on.
 
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